Hello Mimsters, I have been reading helpful comments here and I need help desperately.
By 27th December I will be 14 years in a marriage I can’t describe.We have 3 children together.
My husband doesn’t talk to me if the bills are not paid and until I pay them before I am a considered a good wife. When i didn’t have a job, it was hell on earth. It was constant beatings and humiliation.
When I started working and was promoted in 2013, I paid all the bills in good time until I could no longer handle it alone. Initially he made it seem I was making an investment for the family, until I realized that the all the documents excluded me.
This has made me shut down my life and social life for my kids. I collect loans, borrow, buy items on credit even borrow. These periods are never ending. I cannot remember when last there was fun in this house. I have tried talking to him on several occasions but the last one earned me a beating.
I feel like a slave. I have spoken to pastors, lawyers, family members and social groups yet I can’t get a solution to these problems. The way he interacts with me in the home is like one relating to his colleagues. There is no romance and laughter in my home.
I dare not try to hold his hands outside nor talk with him in public because it would be a show down.
How can i get out of this hell.