Dear MIMsters: What Are the Implications of Saying “Yes” to this Man?
What are the implications of saying “yes” to this man?
I am 23, in a relationship with a man who is 15 years older than I. Truth is, I would never have thought I could love someone that old.
Initially, I didn’t want to bluff him off so I gave him a chance. Now, he is serious about getting married. I also want to get married but I have doubts.
He is very responsible, godly, caring. These are the traits I want in a man. He respects me and my friends and doesn’t rub his age in my face at all. He is also financially OK.
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The problem is that I don’t feel comfortable moving around with him in public because he looks much older and a bit old-fashioned. I don’t want a situation where people will say I married him for his money.
I am not in a hurry to get married but I feel marrying this man will put so much pressure on me, one of which is to become a mother too soon. I have a lot going on for me in my career right now and if it’s about money, I know I will soon start making mine.
Right now, I need your opinions on this issue as I don’t want to waste his time. What are the practical implications of marrying someone that old?
Youve said the most important thing and that’s you are in love wIth him. Marriage is not a barrier to career progression if you have a man that’s understanding. You need to discuss your fears with him to knowhow he will handle them.
You can tell him you’re not comfortable around him because of his dressing and start buying his clothes for him. Pls don’t miss this opportunity because of age.
There are no implications marrying someone older than yourself but if you don’t feel comfy with it then quit.