Dear MIMsters: All I Need is a Shoulder to Cry On

All I need is a shoulder to cry on.

It happened that l finally agreed to this guy who has been hitting on me since l graduated in 2014.

He helped me secure a job and all this while, he has been like a friend to me so l just deemed it fit to say “yes” to his request. He became my boss but said we shouldn’t announce the relationship yet because our colleagues might start thinking it is the reason for his over friendliness to me.

In my office, most people envy me for reasons l just don’t know and I don’t even care.

In March, l went to his place and he professed all the love he had to me. We smooched all night but l didn’t allow him have sex with me. I told him that l wasn’t ready for that with him yet. l am the type who hardly falls in love but when I do, I get so emotional easily.

This guy started complaining about me that l love seeking attention and that l bend my neck all the time and l always want his hands wrapped around me. l told him that l can’t be with someone who nags at the little things l do. He begged me and we later we started dating again but he never calls to check on me except on Sunday’ when he wants me to come to his place.

I couldn’t stand all the hide and seek, so l asked him what he wants from the relationship and he told me that l am just his friend. l told him that l can’t be having an affair with my friend so he better leaves. He said he just said that to see my reaction. I decided to quit the relationship because l saw that he doesn’t know what he wants.

On his birthday in May, l went to his house and gave him his gift and we kissed. We wanted to go further but l cut him short and told him l can no longer continue in this kind of soon to be toxic relationship. I asked what my offense was. I asked him if he has ever caught me cheating or if I asked him for money as those are the only criteria for a guy to act strange to me. He said if only l can stop bending my neck when l am with him, he won’t be nagging.

l told him that the right my man for me who will accept my shortcomings will locate me.

It’s been 3 weeks already and we only see in the office.. He might be thinking l will come back to him cos he has a big ego. It hurts, l still love him but love is never enough. My future matters. I want to get married but not just to anyone, but one who understands me. I pray everyday for God to help me forget him but l see him everyday.

Right now, I really need a shoulder to cry on as I am emotionally frail.