I need advice as my mother-in-law is coming to visit and would most likely live with us for about 2 months. I have a 15-months-old son.
My MIL is a very good woman but she has this habit of always forcefully making decisions about my son. When my baby was 5 weeks old, she came for Omugwo (child-care) and stayed with us for 3 months. That experience was a bitter-sweet one. She was really a big help as I was still in school but I disliked the fact that she acted like she has more right to my baby than me.
She doesn’t want me dressing up my baby in yellow, she doesn’t want any form of animal drawing on my son’s clothes because of her faith, etc. The few times I insisted on what I wanted, it resulted into her getting angry, refusing to eat and reporting me to hubby.
Of course hubby has always been on my side (a fact she hates). Once, I had a serious quarrel with hubby and he refused to sleep in the house, my MIL prevented me from holding my baby let alone breastfeed him. He was 3 months then. That night, even when I begged her that my breasts were aching me, she insisted on giving my baby formula.
I think I still hold grudges (mildly) even though hubby later settled that issue. She left in February and is coming again next week. I am already having sleepless nights on how I’m going to relate with her and get her to respect my decisions without looking rude.
She will forcefully want me to wean my baby and I’m scared cause I wanted to wean my baby @ 18 months. Please how do I handle this sensitive period?
NB : She’s a very nice christian woman but she seems to always misunderstand my words/actions. This is her only grandchild.