A young woman recently took to social media to discuss what it takes to be a good wife. According to the Twitter user identified as @Ifeoma_Solanke, being good at domestic chores does not make a woman a good wife.
Ifeoma, who is a lawyer cited an example of her past relationship and how it ended despite all she put in into the affair. She cooked his food, cleaned his house, and even washed his clothes and at the end of it all, Ifeoma said his boyfriend called her one day and told her ‘I’m not marrying a maid’ and that was the end of the relationship.
She went further to say that most men are not after women who are just good at doing house chores, as some men can do it themselves. She went on to blame the society for teaching the girl child to be a domestic wife but forgets to lay emphasis on the other core values.
In her opinion, for a woman to be a good wife, she must have something of value to offer in the relationship. She must be one who can be her husband’s prayer warrior, whose husband can trust with his business deals, can be his alter ego, can trust to make decisions on his behalf and don’t flop, who sells out her husband’s brand etc.
Below is her twitter thread:
”My ex was not all bad to me. I had good conversations with him as taciturn as he was and here’s one of them. E: So as a husband, I do all I’m supposed to do for you, what will you do? I started ranting : I’ll cook your food, lay your bed, wash your clothes’.
The words did not come out right, but what did I know. I had just finished school. Unfortunately for me, he said, ‘I’m not marrying a maid’. I felt even worse. Lol! He was sensible enough to want to know what else after the domestic.
Bottom line is, when you talk about the kind of value you should add to your husband, to your family as a woman, it should be something uncommon. Something he cannot get from his maid or any other woman. I learnt that day, that it goes beyond being a domestic wife.
The society teaches a girl child to be a domestic wife but are emphasis really laid on the other core values. Most men are not after these things. It’s even worse when the man can do them himself.See Also
What value can you add to your husband? Can you be his prayer warrior? Can he trust you with his business deals, can you be his alter ego? Can he trust you to make decisions on his behalf and you don’t flop? Are you the kind of woman that sells your husband’s brand or you will be a sell out?
I could go on… Think about it. Have more, know your worth, don’t settle for less. I have long grown beyond the domestic and it is as basic as anything. I am still on me, moulding, working on me, my values.
The experiences I have had as a lawyer proves this fact. Your husband has a company, you dunno jack about it. He dies and you either drive the company to the ground or allow his partners buy you out because… It definitely runs deeper than this.