It is so refreshing to see celebrities be honest about their lives and struggles. American actor and comedian, Terry Crews has never had a problem sharing intimate details of his life with fans.
The former American football player, 50, was met with both support and ridicule when he admitted to being sexually assaulted by a male agent back in 2016. The Brooklyn Nine-Nine star stated:
“The assault lasted only minutes, but what he was effectively telling me while he held my genitals in his hand, was that he held the power. That he was in control.”
The Michigan native, 50, also has been candid about his previous addiction to pornography and how he overcame his obsession. Crews once again spoke about his battle with his porn addiction when he sat down with Andy Cohen on Watch What Happens Live and was asked when he realized that pornography had become a problem.
According to Crews, he realized his addiction had become a problem when his wife, Rebecca King got to know about it and walked out of their marriage. In the interview, Crews also talked about how he overcame the addiction and what he did to save his marriage.
The America’s Got Talent host recounted:
“When my wife walked out. She was like, ‘I’m done with you,’ and it was something. It was something that the porn use led to me being unfaithful years earlier. And what happened was, after years of hiding and not saying anything, she confronted me. She was like, ‘What is it I don’t know about you Terry Crews?’
And I told her. She was like, ‘That’s it. I’m out.’ I was like, ‘Then go on, bye!’ Then what happened [was], I was literally thinking, ‘It’s her. It’s her fault,’ but then I realized, it was me. And all of a sudden, I knew I had to change.”
The actor had a friend who told him it was time that he got better for himself, and that’s when Crews decided to go to rehab.
“It was a stronghold, but I thank God I’m out of it. You learn that you’ve learned a lot of wrong things,” he said of what he took away from time in treatment.
“I learned to correct them. Now, my wife and I are better than ever. We’re back together. Super strong and it’s wild because you can’t keep secrets in a relationship. You can’t do it.”
In a previous Facebook video in which he discussed how he was addicted to pornography for years, Crews said,
“My wife was literally like, ‘I don’t know you anymore, I’m out of here.’ That changed me. I had to change because I realized this thing is a major, major problem.”
Together, the couple then went on Dr. Phil, where Crews revealed that he and his wife decided to stay together after he went to therapy. Good Housekeeping writes,
“On the show, Rebecca said it took her about three years to really trust him again after she seriously considered leaving him for good. But the two ended up working through it – something Terry is eternally grateful for.”
According to a 2015 post by the Huffington Post, the dad-of-4 and his wife went on a 90-day sex fast that left him “more in love” and “more turned on” than ever before.
The outlet quotes Crews as saying,
“90 days — no sex, all relationship, all talk, all cuddle… I found that at the end of that 90 days … I knew who she was, and it wasn’t about ‘Let’s go out because I know I’m gonna get some sex later.’ It was like, ‘Let’s go because I want to talk to you. I want to know you’.”
Crews says that the sex fast– recommended to him while he was in counseling– allowed him to appreciate his wife’s company.
“You have to tell your body no. ‘No. We’re not gonna do that… The first couple [of] weeks, three weeks, you’re like, ‘Oh my god.’ And then all of a sudden you’re in a whole other zone.”
It seems the sex fast worked because the couple is still going strong today. In his Facebook video, Crews shares of his relationship and pornography addiction,
“Every man out there desires intimacy. Every time you look at pornography, it’s a desire for intimacy… You are trying to fight your feelings of being alone by filling it with pornography in an attempt to feel that you are with someone and you know someone. But pornography is an intimacy killer. It kills all intimacy.”
Crews has been married to his wife since 1990. The couple started dating in 1989, even though Rebecca was convinced (at first) that they were never going to be anything more than friends. She tells E! News,
“He almost got stuck in the friend zone… He was a little too nice.”
In 1990, they said I do– Crews was just 20 at the time. Now, they’ve been together for 29 years.
Watch the video below.