Baby-making sex can slowly turn into a pre-ovulatory chore for couples struggling to conceive. If your fertility and that of your partner is good, it is the easiest thing ever to have a baby, the most important thing is to have sex when you’re most fertile.
In the case of couples having difficulty conceiving, much more questions than just timing is relevant. Questions like: Does position matter? What about lying down afterward or the role of female orgasm in fertility? How often should you be having sex? among others.
Here are six top questions women who are trying to conceive wish they can ask about baby-making sex.
1. When Is The Best Time For Conception?:
Timing is critical when you are trying to get pregnant. You are potentially fertile for only seven days in each month and you are more likely to get pregnant on just 3 days, this makes timing very key to your success of getting preggers.
2. How Often Should You Have Sex?
A major concern for couples trying to conceive is how often should they have sex. Although having sex frequently won’t decrease the potency of a man’s sperm, as many believe, it can, however, begin to feel like a chore when sex is mainly for the purpose of reproduction.
Having sex three to four times a week all month long is a good plan. While you can’t get pregnant from sex after ovulation, there may be other benefits to sex during this non-fertile time.
3. What Sex Position Is Best For Conception?
Some people swear missionary style sex is the best for trying for a baby but fertility advocate, Rachel Gurevich explains that style does not really matter, as long as ejaculation happens as close as possible to the cervix, even though she acknowledges the debate around missionary style being more favorable for couples wishing to conceive.
“Truthfully, you can have sex in any position. Variety may help improve your sex life, and that can help you cope better with the stress of trying to conceive.”
4. Does Lying Down After Sex Help?
A lot of women lie down after sex or even raise their legs with the intention to help sperm reach the cervix faster. Again Rachel says:
“It takes sperm between 2 and 10 minutes to travel up from the cervix to the fallopian tubes (which is where they will meet the egg.) However, this movement occurs regardless of whether you’re standing up, lying down, or standing on your head.”
No one is certain whether lying down after sex helps, still, if you want to try it, remain on your back for just 15 minutes after sex. That is more than enough time.
5. Is Female Orgasm important
The female orgasm is not required for baby-making, and plenty of women conceive without it. But could it help? The research isn’t clear, but some studies indicate it just may give sperm a boost.
One theory is that female orgasm helps move the sperm up from the cervix to the fallopian tubes. Another is that orgasm makes you feel sleepy, which increases your odds of remaining horizontal after sex (which may or may not help with conception!)
6. What About Lubricants?
Since couples dealing with infertility may experience stress during sex, which means fewer arousal fluids many couples have had to turn to lubricants. unfortunately, many of those lubricants are not sperm-friendly.
Still, there are a number of sperm-friendly lubricants that researchers have identified, the more popular brands being Pre-Seed, Conceive Plus. You can also use non-fragrance baby oil.