Former BBN Star Ifuennanda Shares How The Ills Of Patriarchy Took A Toll On Her And Left Her Thinking The Worst Of Men
Former Big Brother Naija (BBNaija) housemate, Ifu Ennada took to her Instagram to register her frustrations about the plight of women in a patriarchal society as Nigeria. She said her observations of how society appropriates injustice against women since she was a child have marred her perception about men.
The beauty entrepreneur referenced the many instances of the rape of minors by men, the subduing of women and wives by their men, and her own experiences of abuse with male relatives, a former employer and people she trusted.
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She pleaded for redemption as she narrated a scenario that played out in her head after she saw a ‘shirtless hot guy’ from her balcony, but said she immediately called herself to order, thinking the’hot’ stranger would be no different from other men. She went on to say, no one can blame her for how she arrived at such thinking because everything she had observed took a toll on her and left thinking that men were monsters.
She revealed that she sometimes imagines herself having kids through a surrogate just so she won’t disrupt her life and future with the problems that come with being in a relationship with a man.
Read her full post below:
“My people I think I legit need redemption. So this just happened – From my balcony I saw a shirtless hot guy and went “oh my goodness, this guy is sweet…” I started thinking of the things that could be, but in that same breath I quickly said “abeg nothing dey there jare, dis one go be like the rest.”
When I went back inside I reflected on my actions and just marveled at how far I’ve come in blocking men out of my life. Do you know that sometimes I imagine myself having kids through a surrogate just so that I don’t disrupt my life and future with the problems that come with being in a relationship with a man?
But can anyone really blame me? I grew to watching and hearing countless news of 72 year old men raping 3yrs old girls and getting away with it. Sadly, this is still a norm in my country. I grew up in an environment where men beat their wives for no reason just to prove a point – I still can’t tell what the point is. I have suffered a variety of abuse in the hands of relatives, a former employer and even people I trusted. As a young child everywhere I looked, the society made it seem like only men had the power to make wealth and even the women didn’t help… So how can anyone even blame me for the way that I am? —
Growing up I felt men were monsters, it also didn’t help that the government was/is run by mostly men who have eveything but good thoughts for Nigeria, so I was a very f*cked up kid even though I was/am a bright Star. I was a Rebel.
I have been trying to make adjustments but I don’t think my redemption will happen in one day.”
See the post below: