Clergywoman, Laurie Idahosa, has warned couples against self-destructive habits in marriages. Laurie warned against possessiveness as one of such habits which she says is obvious in how obsessed a person becomes with monitoring their partner’s phones, other personal gadgets among others.
According to Ms. Idahosa, people should allow their partners some space and rid themselves of unnecessary suspicions that could put undue pressure on their relationships.
In a piece shared on social media, Ms. Idahosa said the more a partner cages or monitors his or her significant other, the more freedom becomes attractive to them.
She opined that one of the ways to lose a partner’s interest is to be obsessive or monitor their every move.
Her post reads:
”The more you cage and monitor your partner, the more attractive freedom from you will become.
When you lovingly trust them, free them and stop acting like a private detective, they find themselves coming back, asking to be caged by your love.
As the year comes to an end, you may have found yourself being overly obsessed and possessive of your relationship.
You may be at a place where you will do whatever it takes to keep your partner, so that you don’t journey into 2021 alone.
This desperation may have been making you act in ways that will drive your partner away instead of drawing them in.
One of the best ways to lose a partner’s interest is to hold onto them too closely; to become obsessive and to monitor their moves.
Your relationship is not meant to be a bondage.
Don’t treat your partner like your property, your ward or as if you need to control their every action.See Also
If you are obsessing over them, (even if it is just in your mind), you could very well be sabotaging the one thing you want to keep, more than anything in the world.
Learn to trust, to release the pressure and to love unconditionally, without a magnifying glass.
You don’t need to see everything in their world.
Maintaining a life and pursuing interests that aren’t being monitored by you in detail is what makes your partner more interesting.
Here’s a little checklist….
Stop snooping around
Stop following their every move
Stop spying on their social media, phones, laptops etc.
Stop being so needy
Stop being so insecure.
When you ditch these self-destructive behaviors, you are leaving room for them to love you and pursue your love the way they did when you first started.”