“This comes at a crazy time because I am currently pregnant with our fourth and last child. After my third child, I thought I was done, but felt a battle in my mind over the decision, then we experienced an unexpected pregnancy that ended in a miscarriage.
As hard as it was to get through that, it made me realize how bad I wanted more kids. Now I feel blessed to be pregnant with my fourth and last child. I know it’s my last because there is no fight in my mind over the decision only joy.
Joy of looking at my kids, joy of looking forward to the next season of life, joy of thinking about regaining my own physical health, and joy of what life will look like once my kids are grown. Can’t wait for this next stage of life and so blessed to have four incredible children… June 2021!”
Kristen, Mochi Mommy
“I always wanted three kids, but I’ve had two complicated pregnancies in a row, which both required specialist appointments three days a week.
My second pregnancy was so much more physically uncomfortable than my first, and on top of that, the pandemic started around the time I hit my second trimester. I knew I was done after two months of quarantine parenting two children (I’m on month six now)!”
Sometimes we never know
Anna Bruder, Fitpire
“I have three children here on earth and one in heaven. I’m going to be 32 years old this July, and I’d always said I wanted to be done having kids by the time I was 30. Well, my youngest will soon be 3, and the baby fever has been on me off and on the past couple of years. So, I also want to know, how do you know when you’re DONE?!?! I thought I knew, but now I’m not so sure.”
Shalyce Tyson, shalycetyson.com
Sometimes (often) it’s out of our control
“One, I always envisioned having a son and a daughter, and I was fortunate for that to become a reality. Secondly, my last pregnancy and delivery was really hard on my body. I was sick the majority of the pregnancy, delivery presented some challenges and the C-section recovery was not fun.
Several years later, and I still have some chronic pain/issues that showed up following childbirth. My children are well worth any ounce of physical pain I endured bringing them in the world. My heart is full as a mom of two, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.”
Donna Biroczky, Dangerouscupcakelifestyle.com
“I had two children in my early 20s, got divorced and remarried someone who didn’t have any kids. After losing three babies, we were finally able to bring a fourth child (our second) into the world, after a tenuous pregnancy full of hospital admissions, treatments and six months of bedrest.
Two sections, two vaginal deliveries, and we still wanted to try for #5 and maybe even #6, but we were informed that another pregnancy could result in my death and that of the baby. Sadly, we had to stop and I had to have a hysterectomy. I learned we were done in the office of a cold OB/GYN who didn’t seem to get the gravity of the situation.”
Nichole Smith, knowitallnikki.com
“I was born with a congenital heart defect called TGA, and because of it, I have a pacemaker. The pacemaker paces my heart at a normal pace and helps to stop incidents of atrial flutter or atrial fibrillation (when my heart enters a dangerously high heart rate), among other things.
The moment I knew I was done having children was when the doctor said my pacemaker had stopped working and my heart was functioning completely on my own while I was pregnant with my fourth child.”
Lauren Dimet Waters FountainOf30.com
“I was pregnant with my second son when I knew. He was a complete surprise. I was ‘old’ when I had my first son and went through a ton of IVF to have him. So, I would tell everyone I was a ‘one and done’ to get them to stop asking me when I was going to have another.
I thought there was no way I could get pregnant on my own. Imagine my surprise when I did just that. Truth is, I wasn’t too thrilled about having another child because it meant we would have to move out of our apartment and probably out of the city. I had some complications towards the end of this pregnancy and knew right then and there it would be my last. But I am so happy I have my sons and that they have each other.”
Shari Stamps, navigatingparenthood.com
“I knew we were done having kids when I was pregnant with my youngest. I had perinatal depression and anxiety during pregnancy and postpartum which impacted our whole family.
I also have lost a lot of strength in my body and experienced bone loss and increased back pain with each pregnancy. Even though I love babies, I knew it was time to stop so I could reach a point of self-care eventually.”
Latoi Storr, toitime.org
“I knew I was done with kids when I almost died having the last one with a blood clot in my brain. It was a hard decision, but one that I don’t regret at all.
I will say probably a year after, I felt a sense of, ‘Did I make the right decision?’ when my friends started to have their own kids. However,, with three, I’m grateful for my crew and have decided to live without regret in everything I do from that point on!”