How can I get to forget someone completely?
It’s been a month since we broke up. I thought I was over him but we still get to chat on our social media platforms.
He broke up with me after giving me so many flimsy excuses. He said he could no longer mentally handle our relationship and that he has financial problems. He is in his early twenties.
Meanwhile, I have never been a dependent lady as I don’t bill him. Anytime I need and ask him for money, if he says he does not have, I don’t bug him about it. I just have to understand. I have been supporting myself financially while my parents are not finding things easy. Everybody gets to fight for themselves. I started working right after leaving secondary school.
He started giving me space and when I complained, he said I nag too much. I have always been there for him. I loved him wholeheartedly and turned deaf ears to financially comfortable men who were ready to foot my bills but I was not really after that.
I gave him space, thinking that was what he needed but then he continued with his excuses until he came out plain to ask me for a breakup. I was ready to talk things through with him but I saw he really wanted a breakup, so I consented to it and allowed him be, even though I was heartbroken.
I thought I was over him until I found out that he has been seeing someone behind my back long before we broke up. I was pained and heartbroken. I cried and I felt so bad for myself.
I am emotionally down as I write to you.
I confronted him on a WhatsApp chat because I could not keep it to myself any longer and pretend as if nothing had happened. I told him how disappointed I was and he could not say anything else apart from saying that I have finally seen what I was looking for.
I really want to move on for real and face my career squarely but it’s been so hard to get him off my mind.
I will be turning 21 this month of May. I am student, attending a catering school and would be resuming 200 level to study pharmacy by the end of this year.
I really want to take this off my mind but I need help. I have deleted the contacts of all his friends because they are all birds of same feather. But I still have my ex-boyfriend’s contact. I really need help to forget him.