“You can lose who you are while you’re raising them. But it’s so important to take time for yourself to keep this from happening.”
“You’ll only ever be as happy as your saddest kid.”
“Learn to live life with using one arm because the other one will be holding the baby.”
“Everything takes longer than you thought it would. Leaving the house with a baby or toddler takes an extra 10 minutes minimum to make sure they haven’t shit themselves, you have a change of clothes and extra nappies, milk, food, toys and more.
“Strapping them into your car seat or stroller is like wrestling with an uncooperative, strangely strong yet ultimately fragile octopus.”
“When kids grow older, you don’t have a private life anymore. They stay awake longer than you.”
“Once they get out of the toddler stage, it can become extremely worrisome and time consuming to parent them to become good people. They start asking questions and they form their own opinions.”
“It’s a very delicate balance between trying to get them to listen to important things and trying to get them to become more independent. It makes you think you are constantly messing it all up. It can be very hard to find a balance.”
“You have to parent the kid you have. The books, your friends’ thoughts, pediatricians, therapists are just fine for ideas.”
“But at the end of it all, you have this complicated little person you’re in charge of with their own preferences, feelings, insecurities, abilities, and you have to do what works for them and your family and, of course, also raise someone who isn’t a blight on humanity or menace to society.”
“Practicing diapers on a doll doesn’t count. You’re ready when you can do it on a cat.”
“Everyone says that they won’t resort to screen time or frozen meals like chicken nuggets. In my experience, yes you will.”
“Because you cannot keep a house tidy, have clean clothes, make meals, do grocery shopping, work, without compromising a few things in order to maintain sanity. There’s only so many hours in the day and so thinly you can spread yourself across the rest of your life.”
“Nothing prepared me for the sheer ‘unrelentingness’ of parenting. Every day for many years has to be finished with a dinner, bath, and bed routine that takes two hours, regardless of how tired, upset or unwell you are.
“It’s difficult enough if you’ve been at work all day, yes, but also if you’re on holidays and got a little bit sunburnt, or been to a family wedding and overeaten, or spent the day assembling Ikea furniture and are just exhausted. As a childless adult you could occasionally say “I’m just having takeaway tonight”, and flop in front of the TV until bedtime. As a parent, that’s not an option.”
“You will NEVER sleep the same again. It’s just different levels of fear and worries as they get older.”
“When you’re younger it can be lonely. My only other adult interaction other than my husband is the cashier at the food store.”
“Everything you say or do is being watched and shaping the personality of another human being and if you fuck up, you might fuck them up as well.”
“I call it ‘active listening’ and it is really draining. When there’s only other adults in the house, you don’t pay much attention to the everyday noises. With kids in the house, you are always listening. Are they crying? Are they fighting? Are they too quiet? What just got opened? It gets better as they get older but nothing can prepare you for it.”
“At the end of the day, you miss them. Regardless of how your day went, or how close you were to screaming or just shutting the door and walking away, when they close their eyes and go to sleep, you cannot wait to see them again and try again.”
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