The topic, Submission, has been one of the major causes of debates, deliberations and downright arguments among spouses and defenders of the sacred marriage institution.
In a recent teaching in her place of worship, Nigerian billionaire businesswoman and philanthropist, Apostle Folorunsho Alakija, addresses the controversial topic, educating couples on what submission is and what it is not.
According to Mrs Alakija who has been married to her husband for over 40 years, many husbands have abused the word ‘submission’ in Ephesians 5:22 and used it to control their wives.
She went further to state that these men have chosen to ignore verse 21 and 25 which command couples to “submit to one another” and husbands “to love their wives just as Christ loved the Church”.
She explained further:
“We find that husbands don’t want to concern themselves with verse 21 which says submit to one another but they chose to camp with wife submit to your husbands. But they didn’t go further down to go and read verses 25 and 26 which tell husbands more about what they are supposed to do.
You find that Verse 21 was shorter but many have chosen to ignore it. There have been many arguments for and against, many controversies about this word submission.
Many have twisted it to suit what they desire. Many husbands have used it as a control measure. That’s not what it is meant for. In fact, it is for unity and not for control.”
Writing further on her Facebook wall, the 70-year-old grandma said:
“Submission in marriages has always been a controversial topic, but what does it really mean?
“As a Christian wife, it is your God-given duty to submit to and obey your husband as both of you submit to one another and Christ.See Also
“While there are many references in the Bible about how a woman should behave in marriage, there are also scriptures that guide men on how they ought to treat their wives.
“Often overlooked, however, is that men are equally obliged to love, nourish and cherish their wives.
“Christian husbands should not abuse their authority. Let the word of God in Ephesians 5:21-25 guide you in leading a peaceful marriage.”