UK-based Nigerian Mum Applauded Over How She Dealt With The Deadbeat Father Of Her Children Who Wanted To Relocate To The UK Through Her
A UK-based Nigerian mum, Uloma Nwogu, has gone public to share how she navigated a challenging encounter with the father of her children, whom she described as absent for years but later attempted to use her as a pathway to the United Kingdom.
In a post shared on Facebook, Uloma revealed that she relocated to the UK two years ago with her children, having raised them alone for six years.
She described the migration journey as mentally and physically draining, stating that she developed high blood pressure due to the stress of single parenthood in a foreign country.
According to Uloma, her children’s father resurfaced in January this year after blocking every access to him. She said he messaged her on Facebook, expressing a desire to reconnect with the children.
After several conversations, he proposed to be added to her visa in exchange for reimbursing her for the children’s school fees over the past six years.
Uloma said she calculated the amount to be ₦7.9 million, which he surprisingly paid within 30 minutes.
She said she wept so much because she used to beg him to pay for his children’s school fees while still in Nigeria, and he would block her.
Shortly after gaining access to the children, the man began pressing Uloma to return to Nigeria for a court marriage, citing that their union was only traditional and that he needed a legal marriage certificate to aid his visa application.
When she refused and blocked him, he allegedly retaliated by involving her family. He went ahead to arrest her mother and father, claiming they must provide her.
Interestingly, he said her siblings are now handling the matter and challenging him to provide proof of the alleged visa scam.
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She wrote:
“I came to the UK alone with children, I have been taking care of them alone for 6 years. I managed to Japa 2 years ago and the journey nearly destroyed me. I even developed BP in the process of single motherhood in this country.
Fast forward January this year, my children’s father showed up in my Facebook inbox and wanting to talk to me. After several calls, I gave him a listening ear. He said he wants to be in the children’s life and offered me money to add him to my visa. But he will pay me back the Children’s school fees in the last 6 years.
I calculated N7.9M and he paid in 30 minutes. I cried so much because I used to beg this man to pay his children’s school fees and he will block me.
He started calling to speak to the children. Just one month after, he started demanding I return to Nigeria for court marriage because it’s only traditional marriage we did, so that he can apply for visa, I blocked him.
He went to arrest my mother and father, claiming they must provide me, that he paid me for visa and I scammed him. My brothers and sisters are dealing with him now: He should bring proof where I charged him for visa.”
