Nanny To The Rescue: Help My 4 Year Old Son Is A Terror!
Dear Nanny,
My 4 year old son is very aggressive and cries for everything. Every time we go out to friends, I am constantly embarrassed by his behaviour. He always tries to snatch toys from other kids or eat from other kids plate even though he still has his. The crying over every little mishap or if he doesn’t get his way is the most unbearable part. Please help as i know friends are starting to get a bit fed up.
Reply
It’s about time you handle your child with tough love. Tell your son that you love him, yes, but you will no longer let him get away with naughty behaviour. Start by laying down rules and corresponding consequences for breaking each rule. Every child, even the best behaved of them will test your rules to find out their limits. Do not hesitate to reinforce your rules and discipline whenever he breaks them. Do not make empty threats. If you’ve warned him before that he will be sent to seat in isloation if he snatches toys from other kids, and does not listen, then by all means, let him face the consequences. This can be very difficult initially but comes with great benefits if done consistently. Consistency is the way to go with kids that age.
Most parents don’t know that the training and disciplining of ur children starts immediately you give birth to him or her,e.g I see some kids beat and bites their mom esp and I kind of wonder,d biting starts frm breast feeding,when ur child bites u while breast feeding tap him under his feet,d way u will tap a baby,by d time u do that so many times,d baby gets it,when he is 1, he bites u tap him and kips biting u,bite him where he feels d pain but let it b baby bite!when he gets to 2-3yrs,he beats and bite,tell him it’s wrong and if he still continues,treat him with his own poison,am sure he will get it!The trick is as soon as u notice an habbit u don’t like abt ur kids,immediately correct it the best way that works for you!kids know what they do from 2 to 3 and that’s d time to watch out and correct them b4 it gets out of hand!am sure you don’t want ur kids to become ur worst nightmare,nothing like they are still children,they even start lying at three!
I strongly believe in this method but my husband believes our one year old is too young to be disciplined. Considering dt it took a long time to get her,I cannot afford to hv her spoiled.
You didn’t start early to discipline him but it’s not too late to start now.Start in d house,don’t wait till you go out.Be firm in whatever method you choose to apply
Kids are not to be overlook whenever they start dis type of attitude u just have to make rules and make sure they abide to it else they wil be punished for it
Great
Good one