Dear MIMsters: Should I Move on and Leave My BabyDaddy For Good?
Should I leave my babydaddy for good? Should I move on.
I am a single mother but still with the father of my child. His ex who was his first love jilted him for a rich man. Even though this happened years ago, it’s so clear he’s not over the pain yet.
He’s still in contact with her and has her pictures all over his laptop and still asks people about her. He is always more interested in her issues than in mine. They still call each other too. This saddens me.
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We have been together for two years now. Even though he shows so much love and cares for me, he’s never introduced me to any of his friends. He says he’s not going to introduce me so that when I also leave him, his friends wouldn’t know.
Those of his friends who know me just guessed we were dating because of how close we are. A female friend of his didn’t like me, so he lied to her that we have broken up. When I found out, he told me it was because he wanted her to stop saying nasty things about me.
If he really loves me and is proud of me will he tell such a lie to please his friend?
Whenever we have a misunderstanding, he will ignore me for days or weeks till he’s satisfied and wishes to talk to me. He always thinks I am going to leave him one day so he doesn’t want to get so deep into this so that he wouldn’t be hurt when I leave.
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He listens to his friends more than me. I love him but I don’t even know what to do. I have asked him not to treat me like his ex but to love me like a different person because I can’t pay for another person’s sins. He got angry and hasn’t spoken to me for two weeks now.
I feel like leaving him but always consider our 2 year-old daughter. I am getting fed up.What should I do?
Wow, he still has lots of issues of his own to work through. But it seems like he has not recognized you officially. That’s tough. Follow your heart and do what’s best for you and your child. You have only one life to live , don’t continue to live in someone else’s shadow.
Dear poster, like you said he is just your baby daddy. Please move on.
You caan move on.
He’s so insecured. Please move on
Be a little more patient you will be suprised how difficult it is to get over your first love …..be patient but firm make sure you demand to be treated they way you deserve to be…He will come around with time
Dear he is just ur baby daddy so u got to move on with ur life
Be patient a little, he ll change. Give him some time, since he loves you and cares for you, he ll change with time.what you have to do is to put him in prayers and you shall see the wonders of God.
Give him some time pls, show him more love, be patient with him, he will get over it one day but if after everything , there’s no changes then u can move on
Its obvious he is taking out his ex’s disappiont out on u.Its sad dat he is not ready 2 take a chance on u even after having child together.l think u shd sit him down n talk 2 him(dnt even consider if he will be angry).Tell him how his actions make u feel,tell him u deserve 2 be happy.And then give him time 2 ponder over it.lf there is no change in his behavior,my dear move on bcs u have jst one life n u have d right 2 enjoy it.dnt live a frustrated life bcos u will likely take it out on ur daughter
With time, he will get used to u depending on how you treat him and. Continue to show love to him and he will love you for who you are
I tried not to judge but please permit me to judge right now; what is the gain of being a baby mama instead of being a wife? How can u be with a man who has pixs of his ex all over the place? How can u even have a child with a man who doesn’t want to introduce u to his friends but will rather say he has broken up with u inorder to satisfy a ‘lady friend’? Pls ladies, try to have some dignity ; life doesn’t start or end with a man. Baby mama all over the place with little or no respect accorded to u. #phew.
Back to your question, leave him for good, move on with your life & always tell yourself that u are too good to be a second fiddle. He will never marry u even if u visit okija shrine & if he even does, he wl make your life a living hell. Life is too short to be in a relationship that doesn’t make u smile. Cheers dear.
Why bring a baby in to dis world when d both of u dont knw wat u wnt. My dear move on. Dat guy is just ur baby daddy.
For him to still be pinning after an ex who left him for another is enough to tell you that he still has a lot of issues to deal with talk more of the pictres and other thing he is hanging on to. I’d suggest you move owith your life. You will meet someone who will respect,value you and return the love and affection you have to give.
U try ooh,I cnt even stand half of it me dat liks my hubby showin me off,anyway just be ur self,talk to him try to mk him bliv in ur love for him,I guess he reali loved his ex
I hate relationships that come with baggage
Pls move on he’s nt married to u yet so I wonder wat ur still doing with him couple with all these headaches he’s giving u.
please move on cuz if u dnt he is going to waste ur tym….
A man that can’t introduce you to his friend and lie about the relationship is simply not proud of you..forget that ex story leavin him..you better forget about that guy..baby daddy must not marry you ooo..
Wow,hes got serious issues but if u love him u should stay.Patience and love is d key here.Wish u well.
Pls take a walk…just move on, if he wants u he will find u and beg u to return. Respect yourself and demand for his respect by moving on. At times we don’t know what we have till we have lost it
Stop wasting your time with him and move on.
he is only your baby daddy and not your husband. so his care is on the baby for now and not you.
U can ignore him for sometime, if u re important to him, he will come for u nd his child.
Pls follow ur heart. U knw wht u want
Having a kid for a man is not a criteria to stay in a relationship and continue being unhappy, for how long???? You only got one life dear.
Pleaseeeee……you want a man who loves you, respects you, shows you off to the world right? this guy does not right now? Men do not change just like that from not loving you into loving you, when a man loves you he wants the world to know and he fights for you! God loves you and wants the world to know and He Always fight for you! this guy i too quick let you down at the slightest challenge is that what you want for your life nor your daughter’s. Please move ooooooon! and build a better lovely life for yourself!
u are right
He’s not proud of you and he doesn’t have respect for you.Simple.Move on already
Sorry to say from ur post d fault was from u it was obvious he was all over his ex but u thought u could win him over by having a baby with him all u need do now is to move on life is too short to be a second fiddle
WALK and dont look back..
The truth is always bitter. If his Ex comes now, he will dump you for her. Might even marry her immediately. So stop tying urself down and move on. Its sad but you got to move on.
MOVE ON! You are not married to him! For how long will you keep hoping he will do all the thing you want him to do. Tell him you can’t stand his attitude anymore and you aint comfortable
Move on dear
Message.. Move on
He is not proud of u dear poster. As a matter of fact he can’t wait for u to leave. He is still in love with his first love and wish she can come back. Please. Courageously move on with ur life
Just follow ur hrt n b happy. But make him understand that if u ever leave him, its him that pushed u away with his insecure attitudes.