6 Tips On Parenting A Shy Child
In general, there’s nothing wrong with being shy. Shy kids are often better listeners and get in less trouble at school.
However, being bashful becomes a problem when it gets in the way of doing what’s normally expected, or when it’s making your child unhappy. You may want to get professional advice if your child:
- Doesn’t want to go to school
- Has trouble making friends
- Frets about going to birthday parties or sports practice
- Is anxious about being shy
What causes shyness?
Shyness is pretty common. It’s estimated that between 20% and 48% of people have shy personalities.
Most shy kids are simply born that way, although negative experiences can also play a role. Did your child’s shyness come on suddenly? If so, an event might have triggered it, and they may need help getting past it.
Embracing the shy personality
Shy children often have common traits. “Once you recognize these natural behaviors, you can work with them instead of against them,” says Bernardo Carducci, PhD, director of the Shyness Research Institute at Indiana University Southeast. Shy kids are typically self-reliant, thoughtful, and empathetic, but often don’t like trying new things. They are often slow to warm up, taking longer to adjust to a new situation. They may want to be social, but avoid approaching others because they’re afraid or don’t know how. It’s important that they approach situations at their pace, not your own, Carducci says.
Use these helpful tips:
1. Provide an entry strategy
Help your child approach a group of peers and listen, allowing everyone some time to get used to one another. Teach them to find a break in the chatting and join in. Offer talking points beforehand.
2. Build confidence
Remind her of a time when she was in new situations and got through it. When going to a birthday party, for example, bring up another party you went to and how much fun she had with the other children. Help them through challenges that are self-reinforcing, so they want to do them again.
3. Work on social skills
Give your child chances to practice his social skills whenever you can. In the store, encourage him to pay the cashier. At dinner, have them order his own meal. Invite a friend over to play so your child can get more practice being with peers.
4. Offer feedback
Praise or reward your little one for small steps, like saying “hi” or waving. If they freeze up in front of someone, talk about it. Discuss things she can try next time.
5. Express Empathy
Tell your child that you can see they’re feeling shy, and that you feel that way too sometimes. Share stories about times when you overcame your own shyness.
6. Model outgoing behavior
When you show your child how to greet people, converse, and be friendly, she gets more comfortable doing the same. Above all, show love and acceptance. Let her know it’s OK to be shy.
Source: WebMD
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Being shy is very common in toddlers but with encouragement,some outgrow it
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