Dear MIM Readers: How Do I Make My Husband Open Up To Me About Money?
I’m having issues with my husband about our finance.
He always complain whenever he wants to give me feeding money. Every Monday, he gives me 5-7k. I use this money to buy foodstuff, pay NEPA, pay security, fuel the generator, buy cloths for the kids and give the kids money for transport to school daily. All from this 5-7k weekly.
I don’t ask him for money to take care of my personal needs and how can I boast of anything tangible with my meagre salary of 12k monthly? Anytime he gives me money, he would tell me that he borrowed it. Meanwhile, I don’t hide my salary from him, but when he has, he doesn’t tell me. I don’t steal even though I know the economy is generally bad. All I want is for him to tell me the truth about his income. We will manage and God will sustain us. His insincerity is giving me concern after all these years of being married. I cannot afford to even send 5k to my dad for the whole year. It;s hurting me so much. I don’t want to sound like an ingrate but how do I handle this issue?
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Start saving now by doing contribution no matter how little from ur salary….. Don’t stress nor kill urself over one man oh and if u think de money isn’t enough then speak up cause if he’s not spending on his family then a side chick is eating it all up, he can go n buy food stuffs in bulk to reduce expenses. Such a man won’t even gv his inlaws dime *smh* I rada remain single than marry such a man.
Save from the little you can so u can take care of urself, kids n ur parents too
Well then start hiding your salary from him and let him continue ‘borrowing’ to take care of the family
u really need to cut some amount from ur salary and dont touch no matter what. U see this kind of men will never bring hence they knw “if i no bring she will definitely support” Start by saving 10000 from ur next salary n keep 2000 in ur purse,if he asks tell him u had to send to ur parents as dey wia so much in need,the next one,bring out 7000,forge a fake result in a cyber and tell him u went for checkup and u need to get drugs ,mayb next time,keep 10000 again n tell him they asked the kids for a levy or anytin in skul,u need to be strong and tink of good lies to save up,is it this hand u will use to train ur kids to university level? LIE to Save
hmmmm
Hmmm this is serious. Madam only few men disclose their income. So just start saving your own and forget about his. If you wait for him to tell you that may cause problem in your home and its not worth it.
Hmmmmmmm speechless
Some men are so stingy. Poster save little money from your salary. It’s well
Write down everything you spend in a paper even if it’s 1 naira then at the end of the week, give him the paper so he will see. Most times men think we women use in the name of house keeping to be keeping money. In fact let him handle it for a week so he will see. Also, u can start giving his I small meat at each meal so he will understand.
I concur with you.
Even at times don’t put meat. If he asks why, tell him the children need it more, shikena!
I’ll advice u 2 start saving 5k every month, he is not given u enough cos he believes u’ll bring urs,
Madam i will advice u to save from ur income no matter hw small… May be 2000-3000 per month is smtin. And for the household expense fund the one u can afford and leave the rest, i mean thing like Phcn, fuel for gen, when he is bk nd always meet a backout he will be forced to do somtin.
dn’t know what is wrong with some men, pls start saving, no mater how little and, keep it secret cos once he discovers he will start borrowing from u
Oh my
Hmmm, just send from the little you have to your dad. Some men though
Start saving money no matter how little..from there you can send some to your parents whn thers need for it…Ignore your hubby..if him like make him borrow from the whole world that’s he’s business as long as him dey drop money..Do the ones the money can solve and lleave the rest till him borrow again. .
hmmm
hmmm,hide it from him too
save 1k per month.period
this one is worse dan aka gum.close ur eyes n save no matter how small each month from ur salary
U must learn to save at least 2000 every month from ur salary and also buy in bulk
Anytime he gives you money, he says he borrows. Meaning he borrows every week since ghe gives you 5-7K every Monday? Next time, ask him how much debt he has incurred to date and when he is gonna be a lender since he always claims to be a borrower. Suggest in a good manner ways of saving and spending together as a family and this can only be when you are both open on your sources of income. I wish you well poster. You can also get some advice from some people that have commented.
Buying in bulk will be okay, join a group of people doing ‘Esusu’ monthly contribution in ur place of work, 2k every month in 6 month will go a long way to help in sending something to your dad and buy something for yourself. I just phase out that level, not easy at all…It is well
Hmmmmm
men and their wayo
Women are supposed to be a help mate not off loading all on a woman…..
God help women folks oooo
Me i dnt disclose all my salary to my hubby ooo, but they say it’s bad, not advisable, dn’t follow my way, it might backfire
Always try to save from your income no matter ow little it may be
This is heartbreaking, the salary is too small to be able to save from it. I don’t really know.
You need to talk to him ooh. Open up about how difficult it is for you….madam you dey try sef
save the little u can