Dear MIM: He comes with baggage. Should I still marry him?

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I’m a 31-year-old single lady.

I met this 46yrs old widower 3 months ago who has 2kids. There is no doubt, I love this man.

Last week, he confessed to me that 2 years after his wife died, he met a woman who left her husband when she could not have a child after 15 years of marriage, but was able to get pregant for him. He said he didn’t marry her because her father was an Imam whi objected to their marriage.

So when this woman had her baby, she became vety hostile to his kids. When his son (9yrs) son got burn while he and sister were playing with a lantern at night, she saw them but did not care. She claimed the man loves his 2 kids more than hers. He told me that the injury the boy sustained almost claimed his life.

To cut the story short, she packed out 2 years ago. Now, he wants me to marry him, but I’m afriad to say yes because of this woman out there who has a son for him. They were not legally marrried though. I don’t have any problem with his 2 kids but this woman. He said he has nothing to do with her again, that he only sends money for their son’s upkeep, that the boy will look for him when he cones of age.

Should I go ahead to marry him?