Dear MIM: He comes with baggage. Should I still marry him?
I’m a 31-year-old single lady.
I met this 46yrs old widower 3 months ago who has 2kids. There is no doubt, I love this man.
Last week, he confessed to me that 2 years after his wife died, he met a woman who left her husband when she could not have a child after 15 years of marriage, but was able to get pregant for him. He said he didn’t marry her because her father was an Imam whi objected to their marriage.
So when this woman had her baby, she became vety hostile to his kids. When his son (9yrs) son got burn while he and sister were playing with a lantern at night, she saw them but did not care. She claimed the man loves his 2 kids more than hers. He told me that the injury the boy sustained almost claimed his life.
To cut the story short, she packed out 2 years ago. Now, he wants me to marry him, but I’m afriad to say yes because of this woman out there who has a son for him. They were not legally marrried though. I don’t have any problem with his 2 kids but this woman. He said he has nothing to do with her again, that he only sends money for their son’s upkeep, that the boy will look for him when he cones of age.
Should I go ahead to marry him?
Hmmm there is always 2 sides to every story and you’ve heard one.Try and dig further about the man.Even the kids could reveal some details about daddy if u are close and nice to them.Most of all,pray and seek God’s direction.
I agree. She could get most of her info from the kids if she’s nice. Personally, i don’t have any problem with the age difference. If the guy can “fire well”, why not…lol
Hmmm I would have asked you to follow your heart but on 2nd thought my worries is that the man in question is like 15years older than you which is way too far for a young girl like you. So why would you want to throw away your life in such a way tending for two kids. The woman outside is not the issue now but you. Please trend carefully to avoid story that touch.
be careful and watchful before you leap
Hmmmmmmmmm too much baggages really. Pray about it dear. God directs you.
Capital NO, you’re still young, why rushing into things that u urself knows that u will later regret
We are not to decide for you..if you can’t deal with the baggage, say no to his proposal and walk..31yrs is not that old abeg..keep calm another will come.
The baggage is way too much to me.
You are the one going into the marriage and if you are uncomfortable with anything be sure to clear that out before proceeding.
Just be prayerful and ask God for direction cause is only you can decide on what you want. #Shikena#
Hmmmmmmmmmm
Dnt be deceived with d baggages it might be a way of deceiving u just seek for a divine direction
Just seek for God’s direction.
try to do all ur findings properly.n if u ok wt d man den congrats
men are deceptive in nature ooo,hmmm
It’s a tough one…you really need to seek the face of God on this one
Let it go abeg,
Please find another man to marry. His life is already complicated as it is