“Why I Regret Being A Dad” – Father of Two’s Honest Confession Of His Life As A Dad
A father-of-two, who wishes to be referred to as Jack blames parenthood for forcing him into a live-in-relationship with a woman he doesn’t love and a life without friendships and career prospects.
Read his full post below as reported on the Mirror to understand why it was such a big mistake for him.
He writes, “I definitely regret having kids, I find being a parent boring and overly tiring more than anything. It’s cost me friendships and arguably my career as well.
“Back in 2010, when I was 21, I had just finished my second year at university. I had also just split up with my girlfriend.
“However a week after the split she rang and told me she was pregnant. It was a shock as she had been on the pill at the time.
“At that point I didn’t know what to do but after mulling things over I said I would stand by her for the child’s sake.
“It was definitely through gritted teeth though, I really didn’t want to but at the same time didn’t want to be a scumbag dad who just ran away.
“In order to make things work we had to move in together, which again was a pain in the backside.
“She did my head in most days, would constantly whinge and moan because she was hormonal and had heartburn all the time.
“I struggled to sympathise with her because I knew I didn’t love her, most days I couldn’t stand to be in the same room as her.
“Whilst I was able to continue my degree I was missing out terribly on uni life. I could never go on nights out anymore and was drifting apart from my friends, who were all free and single.
“Nonetheless, I just got on with things and put up with being miserable all the time.
“When our son was born it didn’t make me happy, just scared at how difficult he would be.
“Soon night feeds and 6am get-ups became the norm and I HATED IT. Some days I would just sit staring at him whilst he screamed for no reason and just felt anger and resentment.
“Even as he got older and settled down it still didn’t make me enjoy it, I constantly wanted to be somewhere else. It was like my youth was over and I’d barely had the chance to live it to the max.
“I was able to graduate from university but soon found getting my desired job in TV or Radio was so difficult. Unless you lived in London, jobs in this field were scarce.
“A year went by and I got nowhere, so in the end I just gave up and went for a normal, dead-end job just to pay the bills.
“The situation with my ‘girlfriend’ was a strange one as well. Although we were living together, it was just as parents – not in a proper relationship – but on the outside and to other people we had to pretend we were a couple.
“My initial plan was to eventually move out and live on my own at some point, but after six years now it’s never been financially viable.
“Not to mention the fact that she fell pregnant again in 2014 (this time whilst on the coil) and gave birth to my daughter last year.
“She has been an absolute nightmare. She’s had all sorts of problems ranging from a floppy larynx to reflux to being constantly bunged up. Basically, anything that affects her sleep.
“Even though she’s nine months old, we are lucky if we get four hours sleep a night. It’s hell.
“I’m so tired all the time and getting up to work a rubbish job just makes things worse.
“So basically I’m stuck living with a woman I don’t love and two screaming kids who don’t give me a moments’ peace.
“To put it simply: I wish I’d got a vasectomy at 16.”
You are a crazy and crappy human being. Your girlfriend and kids don’t deserve a father and partner like u. Idiot
Hmmmmmmmmmmm
Lol, funny guy.when you tasted the honey comb, didn’t you know you were too young for it as well? Just pray we don’t hear any story of a father that murdered his kids cos they were ‘screaming for no reason at all’ lols
Hmmmm I feel for him sha
U didn’t love her but was busy enjoying free food? Mtcheeeew
Story for another day
Oga abeg #leavetrashforlawman#
At this rate if nothing is done(like him seeing a shrink)he might just wake up one day and murder that woman and the kids and then commit suicide
You didn’t want kids, yet you were busy enjoying the honeypot. Issoriat o
You didn’t love but you still making love to her,just listened to yourself rubbish
Immaturity dey worry this one.
Yeye man
He’s problems are self made let him enjoy them and not complain
He should have his head re-evaluated.i hope his kids sees this crab.dump ass
Did he force or rape the girl ?who is giving him free food(the girl I think)he’s only expressing his mind,its like that when u find out it is not what you expected
He’s just not ready..work on yourself guy
Who force u, abegi
Teach your son the opposite of whaat you did and he is gonna be a happy partner and dad. Too young. where? And not too young to keep sleeping with that lady? And women also. She should have closed her legs wello wello ooh…. Ah.
Helpless guy,I feel for him.
Lol,,,who send am?msteww,,,medicine after death
The truth is you just don’t fit into ”being a man”,because all what u are going through is mostly what reall men go through even matured boys.even if you happened to be single i assure you,u will still live a miserable life of no direction,its ur girlfriend and children i pity the most for sticking around you.
Guy, you need to calm down and reassess your situation. Lemme tell you, you don’t need to be in love to have a happy marriage, you just have to learn to love. It’s now ur time to impart knowledge; teach your son not to sleep around unless with a girl he loves and your daughter vice versa.if you didn’t reach your goals in life it is because you set your limitations by using ur kids as excuses. Are you saying TV and radio employees don’t have kids?? You need to dig ur self out of that hole!self pity will not get you anywhere. Get up and move!
You’re just a very lazy and sloppy guy, get a grip on yourself.
mtcheeeeew.he has no point.rubbish talk
Lol.. Bros you never start. You Go soon Learn!
I need to thnk God for giving u wat u don’t deserve. U will b glad in future.
This Kelechi guy sef
Who send you work??
Problem started here: “I had also just split up with my girlfriend. However a week after the split she rang and told me she was pregnant. It was a shock as she had been on the pill at the time. At that point I didn’t know what to do but after mulling things over I said I would stand by her for the child’s sake.” Continued here: “Not to mention the fact that she fell pregnant again in 2014 (this time whilst on the coil) and gave birth to my daughter last year. She has been an absolute nightmare.” Solution: “To put it simply: I wish I’d got a vasectomy at 16.”
YOU CAN’T TRUST CONTRACEPTION IF YOU CAN’T TRUST YOUR WOMAN TO USE IT!
I love my wife and somehow my kids but I regret having them she knew when we got married I hated kids and never intended to have any but she pushed and pushed until one day it happened and now life sucks the kids are terrible spoiled brats and I can’t stand to be around them most of the time.