My Dad & His Relatives Are Attacking & Cursing Me Because I Obeyed The Law
I’m a mother of two living in Europe with my family.
After I had my second child, I could not walk for sometime, so my hubby and I decided to get help from home in Africa. I want to state that I’m an only child, my mum is late and the only living relative I know is my dad.
Well, I spoke with my dad and he introduced a 26-year-ol lady who is a distant relative seeming to come from a humble background. Everything seemed fine, so I processed her papers and got her a 5-year visa.
The agreement was that she was going to help me for 2 years and I promised to help her get a job after the 2-year period. I bore the bills for everything she needed to make her travel easy and comfortable; from pocket money to plane ticket.
The sad thing is, on the date of her arrival she never showed up at the airport. But it was confirmed that she was on board. Long story short, I found out that she was living with a friend in another state. I went there to confirm and it was true. I felt so disappointed and stupid. Lots of things went through my mind but I was too sick to focus my energy on her at that time. I needed to get healed first. So I decided to let her be. Few months later, I reported her to the authorities and she was sent back home immediately.
Now, the issue is that her family members and my dad’s relatives are attacking me. They call me all sorts of names saying that I’m a very wicked person, that I call myself a christian and I can’t even forgive her. They said that everybody has in one way or the other offended someone in their lives and if everyone will act the way I did then there will be no peace in the world. That my type of person is the kind that can’t make peace with all men like the bible instructs.
My dad on the other hand said I’m a very secretive person who cannot be trusted. That all through my childhood they’ve never been able to predict my actions. They said that I should’ve forgiven her because sending her back home was a very devilish act.
I would kept quiet and listen while they spoke and hang up when they are done. All through their abuses, I never said a word. Not because I’m afraid of them but because I did not book what they said and they knew that because my dad told them that I only do that when I’m not moved by what they say. And it was true.
Their talks did not bother me until one of the women made the comment that they should’ve have heeded to the advise of getting rid of me the very day they discovered that I was an evil child who brought misfortune to her parent. That my mum knew no peace all through her pregnancy eventually died while delivering me.
That statement really got to me and I hung after saying, ” you have succeeded, thank you.”
All through my childhood, I kept hearing people call me evil and because of that, my dad never wanted to see me. I was the quiet type who was always at home. That statement just brought back some really bad memories from my childhood which made me feel really down and I began to reconsider my actions towards that girl.
Did I do anything wrong by reporting her to the authorities?
no u dint.cos if i were in ur shoes i could do d same thing
Shoo my dear ignore them n hand de case over to God they will regret later n ask for ur forgiveness
My dear ignore them it’s well wt u
You did right honey…please stop picking their calls, infact change your number fast..They’re miserable so let them be..Always pray for yourself and home so all their bad intention/attack will fail..
Hmmmmmmmmmmm you should have just forgiven her and let karma take its course. You shouldn’t have reported her to the authorities.
You did what I would have done in the circumstance.What rubbish!! So they wanted you to foot all the bills for her to go and stay with someone else.That has been their plan all along,you were the only one in the dark.What do they mean by forgiveness and being secretive?If anything had happened to that girl the same people will hold you responsible.Gosh I’m so peeved.If anyone calls to say rubbish again just tell them to use their money and run all the processes.
U didn’t do anything wrong ma’am
To be honest with you ma, you did no wrong. She well deserve it and if I were to be in your shoes she will even pay me all the money I spent on her trip. She is wicked, mean and ungrateful! Don’t allow their words to get to you and don’t act it to their face that you are hurting…. If possible change your line and cut all form of communication with them even your so called dad! Since you are an ‘evil child’ they are not suppose to expect any thing good or favour from you. They are very wicked and inhuman. Don’t allow anyone to emotionally blackmail you. Be wise.
Forget them please. Let God be the judge. To me, you did NOTHING wrong. They are the evil ones with archaic ways of thinking.
Hmmm.. this is difficult but one thing you should constantly tell yourself is “this too shall pass”. Just take it easy, good you are a Christian so next time you hear such about you tell them what the Bible says “old things are passed away” tell them you’re now a new creature in Christ and leave it there. You did good reporting her to the authorities cause that was breech of contract on her part. Hold your peace while God fights for you.
Hmmmmmmmmmmm, am speechless. Just don’t know what to say about your action
I don’t think u did anytin wrong, guess they all planned it.
U did the right thing
I personally think you went too far!you should have left her and maybe ask for a compensation for bringing her there.
My sister you didn’t do anything wrong. They all played on ur intelligence which is very bad.I guess they had it all planned out before telling you to take the girl. You are not evil, they are d evil ones cos they should have come out plain and tell you to assist a member of d family instead of tricking you. Im even glad you won at last. Although I know you’re hurt by all d mean things they said but pls be strong and don’t let their words get to you. Your Dad and all his relatives didn’t do well at all. I would have done d same tin if i were I your shoes. It means they don’t love you and they are only taking you for a fool. I’ll advise you not to pick dere calls again for now. Your Dad didn’t even pity your state of health. Hmmm. It is well
That serves her right for not keeping to the agreement but you shouldn’t have taken such step. It’s unfortunate your mum died while giving birth to you but it’s not because you an evil child. She’s sure proud of the woman you have become wherever she may be. Ignore their insult coz they just want to get back to you. Don’t stop taking care of your dad.
NO
You did the right thing, exactly the way i would have acted, mtshewww. Do they know how much it cost you to do all the arrangements?
Dear u did nothing wrong!!!! Shikena
Let them all go & die
Poster, you are blesssed. Hope you have fully recovered now. Many women have died in childbirthd and the children grew up/have grown up blessed. Why not you? God loves you my dear. You have been asked to forgive. Yes forgive that girl but they should also ask that same girl to apologise and forgive you if she is very offended for being sent back to where she she belongs. They should also apologise to you for saying evil things that have the potential of injuring you Thank God you are a strong person. It is well with you.
since u are evil y are they seeking favour from u? my dear ignore them change ur number but dont ignore ur father if he refuse to call u, call him and say hello dad i just wanna hear ur voice. shikena!
U did the right thing. Your relatives all had it planned, they could have pleaded with you when she arrived there. why didn’t her so-called friend process her documents & pay the bills. As for there curses & insults, don’t even think about it as long as you know whom you are in Christ, keep praying for yourself & household, your mum gave u life because she loved you dearly. Jesus loves you more.
my dear tell say Godwin joooo
My dear,u did no wrong!! I will do same if I were in ur shoes.infact u disciplined the girl rightly for playing on your intelligence.what the heck!! Stop picking their calls jare.as for u being termed an evil child,pls do not accept that lie.its not ur fault that ur mom died during ur delivery.that one na African mentality.its well with u my dear.
You did nothing wrong Ma,she breach the contract,I wonder what’s going on in her mind,if she had gotten into problem she’ll still involve you cos you brought her there,you did what I would have done save my head lst
In all Ma’am… you did right darling. Don’t let anyone use Christianity to bamboozle you. Why didn’t they require Christianity from her as well. There’s nothing evil about you. Love you love life and stay blessed.
Hello Poster,
Average human being in your state would do the same, I believe they all planned d action. Please do not allow anyone to label u what u are not. Erase them completely from your memory and never answer their phone calls again. Move on with ur family and cease not to pray. If they were not evil, why would someone in ur condition paid all that money and they never even for once let her help u at least couple of months before she disappears. Please, please and please move on with your life. Sorry to say u don’t have an extended family. Focus on ur child and hubby.
You did the right thing by reporting her. That was wickedness on her own part – not even minding how much you needed and looked forward to her domestic assistance and all the money you spent! She’s a wicked being.
Don’t feel bad for your action, you did the right thing! (I would have done that myself).
Change your phone number but buy phone card to communicate with your dad.
u did nothing wrong joor
You did nothing wrong family is not just by blood it’s also by actions …please cut them off the don’t mean you well
You did Nothing wrong Ma
my dear hubby and child are now your family now , dont mind relatives,they are always there when its sweet and good, family is the people u trust n feel your pain and will always help you for the love they have for you not for their selfish reason, you did the rig thing . you are not an evil child, God knows why He created you. so focus and be happy
dear u re great I would av done exactly wat u did.rubbish so wat they did was a plan work. let dem call u whatever pretend a deaf ear
I am short of words on this but to be frankly speaking you did the right thing every sensible human being should do regards to this, i have many reasons to say this but before then i have a question for you, did you inform them about the current situation what their daughter has done and by there response will tell you everything you need to know? and let me quickly pour out this, (Imagine if something bad have happened to her?) (Imagine you let go of everything and forgive her?) they will still call your bad name they will still say that you should have done this done that, so in this life always pray for wisdom.
My dear u did nothing wrong, u only reported her cos what she did was criminal. However, since she is back home, u can forgive her and let go.
My dear u did nothing wrong.
Brethren, actually things happen in this life we live in, for me you shouldn’t have reported her but however it doesn’t any make you wicked or to be mocked as evil as they claimed. Be steadfast in the Lord, because no weapon fashion against you shall prevail. As life goes on things may unfold up and there the world will know who the really evil and wicked one is. You have a responsibility on your kids n family, focus and don’t fail them. Thank you!
u did very well. gud job. I like u
who impregnated your mother and is it your fault she died……you did the right thing….i will sue you and make you pay for the bills before bringing you back….u are very mercifull
i wonder why some people will tell this lady that she did the wrong thing because of God or because of Satan , is it not the same bible that told us not to be over righteous . so that girl and his family they don’t go to church and they don’t hear the word of God from Tv or radio . if you don’t know how to judge keep your fingers in the clove please. this lady did the right thing . let her go back to where she belong, she is a gold digger you have time to pick and listen to evil people. wicked people they know only themselves , what a fuck shit
u did nothing wrong my dear,don’t mind them and don’t pick up there calls anymore.
My dear just pray.
What u did is the right thing. Concentrate on ur health n move on. Next time, do good to outsiders not extended families.
To me reporting her Is the best, because if she ever misbehave, she is going to be hold responsible because she was the one who process her document. So my dear u did nothing wrong, apart from paying her back with her own coin, also for your safety. Don’t mind their ranting forget about them and move on with your life.
good riddance 2 bad rubbish. u did d correct tin dear
my dear u did notin wrong. infact ur dad is not a gud man. Hw can he do such a tin to u n still HV d effrontery 2 utter gibberish 2 u. thump up 4 ur action. Dats gud riddance 2 bad rubbish!
I hope you get to read this,first of all kudos to u for sending her silly as back where she belongs, u need not worry over curse or anything the family members are saying, and back to what worries u d most,youre not evil and u didn’t do nothing to your mum,it is God’s will that she’s now with the Lord it’s unfortunate that ur father also thinks you’re secretive (whatever that means) I actually admire people who don’t say much about what they’re going to do,it makes u achieve almost everything without nobody knowing, who knows maybe d witches are one of the people accusing and blaming u, worry not my dear,i just don’t understand how they think one is foolish to d extent of having d guts to use d ticket I paid for and now going somewhere else simply cos they think u have so much money that u just want to be using it to pay for people’s visa and tickets only for then to run away,im sure u can get help where u are so long you’re willing to pay for it,in my opinion get a help that’ll come help and you’ll pay,its going to be strictly business sometimes getting a relative does more harm than good cos she may grow wings when she gets there and start misbehaving just thank God that she didn’t cone cos that one is an apparent criminal…lastly,pray for your self,husband and kids for protection from all forms of evil,it is well with u…best wishes!!!
The cheapest thing in life is people’s opinion of you which really doesn’t hold water. U are secretive, U don’t forgive which makes U a bad Christian, blah blah blah! Please all these people should pay for her to travel naa, U have done your worst abi? Let them come up with their best! Please simply ignore them, focus on your family and trust in God..
Dey hv brain washed ur dad, who kws if dey were even responsible for ur mum’s death may be dey planed killing mother n child but u were too strong for dem dats y dey c u as an evil child as d saying goes na only witch fit recognise witch. My dear, u are a torn in dia neck dat girl is a witch, a thief and a heartless fellow she deserves more than wat u did to her if she had met somebody like me by d tym am tru wt her her ppl wll not hv d gut to call me on phone. Change ur line if ur dad is wt dem dnt gv him ur contact cos he wll gv it to dem be d one calling him wt private line he sud not borther calling u. U are a blessed lady even tho dey tried to get u at child birth yet God fought for u and put ur enermies to shame in fact whn nxt dey call u tell dem dat witch dey call u is wat u r cos he dat is in u is greater than wat dey r using to fight u. U, ur hubby and all d children God wll gv to u are for signs n wonders. Vry soon all dem dat called u evil wll call u blessed and if dey refuse to repent, u wll see their end one after d other. Jst manage n tk care of ur baby dats d joy of motherhood. U are even lucky holy spirit directed her to somewhere else may be dia plan ws for her to come and throw u out of ur matrimonial home but God fought for u. Enjoy ur omugwo tk care of ur home its well wt u IJN Amen.
Dear you did the right thing because they wanted to take you for grated but your God never allow that to happen, Those that blame you for your action are not planning good of you because you even consider that devilish heartless girl, you would have arrest her and make sure her family pay for all you spent before deporting her back to her farm. Please change all your contact information from those wicked family.