After All What My Husband Has Done To Me, Should I Still Wait For Him Or Move On?
Ok, I was married to a guy who after a year into the marriage decided to go back to his bachelor ways of always wanting to hang out with his friends late into the night or always bringing them home which didn’t go down well with me.
The worst part is that his family controls him. We would plan an outing and in the last minute, a member of his family will call him for something else, he will cancel ours to do theirs without consulting me. When I complained, I became a bad wife and fake born again Christian. Well, it was a lot of drama and while I was a few months pregnant and with a 7 months-old baby, he sent us out of his house!
He wanted his freedom and went off with another lady! I suffered so much in pregnancy and the little one without any help. He didn’t want to have anything to do with the kids until recently when I started forcing him to be involved in the life of his kids, it’s been three years now.
Then I met this young man 8 months-ago who is a serious Christain and has been a good friend and great support to me and my kids. My kids are all over him, but everyone seems to be discouraging me, they say I should wait for my kid’s father to come back to his senses since I have kids for him already, mind you he is still with the other lady. Should I still wait or accept this other guy?
What rubbish my dear move on u re nt a piece of thrash. Nt surprise no1 is condenming de stupid man dat left u cus society tinks its rite.
After 3yrs & he has not come back to his senses?I doubt if he will again.
Move on dear and forget what people would say is ur life, y didn’t those people gave same advice to u husband
wait fire! wait for who l may ask? that is absolute rubbish!
He’s not worthy to be called a father. U can move on if you so wish and if you ate sure he will accept your kids wholeheartedly
Wait for him if he gives you the breath in your nostrils, if not kick him to the curb like he was yesterday’s trash.
Move on with your life and if you don’t want him again, divorce him ..rubbish
U have to be properly seperate from him before u get involved with another man.are u legally married,if u so desire to move on,ask him for a divorce.u need to be properly seperate from him before getting involved with another man.
Move on babe.
U want to wait for someone who’s enjoying himself? For how long? I beg move on sharply. Don’t loose this other opportunity jare.
Madam welcome to our chauvinistic society.The man is having a swell time with his mistress and you are expected to wait forever for him to become tired of adultery and return to you.Nonsense
Move on with your life.You have the right to love and be loved but you just have to be very careful with your choice of man so you don’t end up moving from frying pan to fire.Get a lawyer and start divorce proceedings and ensure he takes responsibility of his kids.Life is too short for one to live in misery
Move on with your life my dear, that lunatic of a man don’t deserve u at all.
It appears your heart isn’t that into your hubby any longer, if you must leave do it decently. File for divorce, get it through, then move on but be well prepared incase it doesn’t work out with you and this new guy. There r lots of other fishes in the sea.
Gosh…. wait for who? Someone that is enjoying his life…. Opportunity come but once. Move on with this guy except you want to die waiting.
Nonsense!!!! It’s only in Africa that women ain’t supposed to have a life. Who said you don’t deserve to be happy??? Wait for who??? Even if he comes back to his senses what business do you have with a rascal??? Please go find your happiness cos you only live once.
My without being told cnt u c dt he is under a charm
Abeg move on,he moved on with out caring about you and your kids
My dear do whatever ur mind tells u
Speechless
Please oooo, don’t wait for him. Move on with your life
Move on, don’t wait for that ungrateful man
Lord have mercy
i read this story repeatedly and i feel sorry for u my poster…my sister had similar story but when she remarried she has triple trouble than the former husband why? because the husband whom is a born again christian doesn’t want to see the children from the previous marriage and i could remember then my mum and our aunties told her not to take the children then to her new home that its when she enters she will know, lo and behold until she returned those children peace came in…..please i will advocate and advice you wait and while you keep the man explain to your children because trying to chase another man by so doing you will loose the confidence of your children and putting it in mind that they know there father and they keep in touch…..PLEASE PATIENCE
U advised her pretty. I love it. Its not about remarrying, have u really look inwards? What answers will u give to ur kids when they grow and ask questions?
Plz move on wit ur life abeg
My dear, if the man in question has agreed to take care of ur two kids very good. Come to think of it how long will u wait for some one whom you are not so sure is coming back to you. Why dnt you find love elsewhere since the 1st person you gave your heart to threw it to the bin. For me i can’t wait for any rascal who doesn’t know the role of a married man.period
Hmmmm
follow ur heart.
Sometimes what the heart says is not what is the best for us. She needs to make a decision prayerfully to avoid any form of regret
Someone here just said it all “Follow Your heart”
Is he Jesus? That you are waiting for his 2nd coming? Abeg move on jare
My dear, I believe that you are a spirit filled christian, you can file for divorce on the grounds of infidelity and neglect. However, I will not advice that you remarry before the divorce is completed…the step could make your husband realise his mistakes and make amends. Above all things the happiness and peace of mind of you and the children are greatly important. The Holy spirit will guide you through.
What nonsense,wait for what. My dear if the other guy you talk about is serious and wants a commitment then go for it. Gone are the days where woman are relegated to the background just to be a good wife or mum. We have our lives to live too and be happy living it. Got your back.
My dear, the world will advice u to move on wit d new man but I see from ur write up dat u fear God. Mark 10 says if u divorce ur husband nd marries anoda, God sees u as an adulterer! U can pray to God to turn around ur spouse or focus on bringing up ur kids. The world’s views annd God’s are never in tandem. The choice is urs- please the world or ur saviour. God bless u
If i were u i will have nothing to do with men in terms of marring again and also will forget about ur usless husband then look for somthing good an be doing to carter for ur children