Dear MIMers: Should I Call My Mother-in-law To Apologise After Harbouring My Rival

My mother-in-law has been one of the best gifts God has given me. I love her to the moon and back because she’s caring and understanding and has always been there for me financially, even though I’m working.

I have been practically worshipping my hubby for the past 9 years of our marriage till date. I bore him 2 male children (7yrs & 8 months old) but unfortunately, fate didn’t smile on me. Two years ago, my husband claimed to have mistakenly impregnated another woman. He gathered his family to apologise on his behalf and also said I should’nt involve my family to which I agreed.

His family accepted the woman, harboured her in MIL’s house, and after giving birth to her baby girl, they sent her back to her family as hubby was unable to rent her and the baby an apartment.

Four years after, via Facebook and text messages, I found out that hubby was dating another girl. I drew the attention of my mother-in-law to it, who took the bold step to find out where this other woman resides and warned her that her son is married and even has a child outside marriage but the lady refused to heed her.

Months later, she called MIL to announce her pregnancy for my hubby and is not ready for any abortion. MIL was angry and vowed never to accept any other baby-mama which she partially fulfilled.

The lady’s family begged but MIL stuck to her goons and didn’t attend the naming ceremony.

To cut the whole story short, after 2 years, I coincidentally met this latest baby mama ( she was heavily pregnant again) and hubby in a nearby eatery when I took my kids for lunch on a Sunday afternoon. I almost went mad. In tears, I rushed out of the eatery to my MIL’s house to report what I saw. MIL was shocked.

Surprisingly, MIL accepted her after much persuasion and from this woman and her clerics. Her family promised to get her an apartment and that she would not stay in MIL’s house to avoid bringing any inconveniences.

The problem now is that, since this last baby mama had her baby in February, she has been visiting and even sleeping over at MIL’s house and MIL never told me anything about it. She has now started hiding things from me (which was doing before). All this got me really upset with MIL (because I never expected such from her). She has also noticed my mood towards her and retaliated by ignoring me. She hasn’t called me in two weeks now.

Am I being too jealous. Should I call MIL to apologise?