Dear MIM: How Can My Husband Allow Our Little Daughter Do This To Him?
I am still in shock as I type this – my head is spinning in circles. I have read about this ugly experience severally and told myself that it cannot happen to me but I guess I was wrong.
I have two daughters. My youngest is almost 2. She likes playing with my breasts anytime I’m naked around her but I always try to stop and correct her. She also likes touching her dad’s private part whenever he comes out of the bathroom and he would shout at her.
Last night, hubby came home a little tipsy and we all laid on the bed, watching a movie. I was so engrossed in the movie and soon realized that both kids were quiet. I had raised my head to see if they had slept when I saw my daughter’s hand in hubby’s boxers, caressing his TomTom and his TomTom was at alert.
Hubby was awake but didn’t say a word. I shouted at both of them and flogged my baby. Hubby claimed he was sleeping and didn’t know. Then, he started shouting at me for pouring water on the floor which made my daughter fall and threw us out of the room.
I’m sure our neighbours heard out fight because it was in the middle of the night. I have vowed that over my dead body will I allow anybody do this to my kids. My daughter is innocent because she was just curious. I just can’t get the whole thing out of my head. I’ve decided I’m going to sleep with my daughters henceforth.
Please protect your daughter
It’s irresponsibility that will make a man drunk in the first place. Please make sure you protect your kids like the mother hen.
Yes cos he will one day end up sleeping with her
Thank God you now know the kind of man you are married to. Whether or not he was asleep please guard your girls like a hawk. Don’t ever leave them alone with him for long. But I wonder how long you will live like this. Children are not even safe with the people who should protect them
Protect your kids oh even against their father. Don’t ever trust him with them before he starts molesting them. I cannot imagine how he would allow his own child caress his manhood. This is how incest starts oh Lord have mercy.
Please do, am in shock just reading it. Your husband is a very sick man am sorry to say. He needs help. What I always say over and over again is that signs of sexual abuse sometimes are not obvious. You need to pray intensely for your family. This is not a good sign at all
speechless
Leave that place Madam! The earlier the better,those are the early signs. Ignore them at your peril. You can’t be there 24/7 to watch over them you’ll become suspicious of his every move and actions. It won’t help your relationship with him in any way. My opinion.
Why in God’s name should either of u be naked in the presence of any child above the age of 18 months? My son is 3 and has never seen his dad’s nakedness before. Even I as his mother never undresses in his presence anymore. You need to be careful. Its u or ur hubby today tomorrow it could be the househelpp or driver. Ur husband is sick sha.
If his manhood was hard in response to that touch then it means he was totally aware and was enjoying it…so biko protect your girls
Pls caution your daughter seriously. I’m sure she has seen u and ur husband having sex for her to want to touch ur breasts and her dad’s dick. Really caution her and as someone said, today its her dad, tomorrow it could be the driver, house help, etc who might not think twice doing God-knows-what to her. And beware of your husband but don’t leave him. He might truly be under the influence of alcohol.
It is unhealthy for you or your husband to be naked in the presence of your children(male or female). You need to set boundaries. Children are not as naive as before with d influx of cartoons meant for adults that children now view to different movies,adverts and peers in school. U and ur husband need to STOP being naked before ur kids either new born or older. It exposes them to so many thgs. The first thg is to accept that the fault is from u and ur husband. Correct that and if need be get her counselled. I don’t know him personally but try to get across to Praise Fowowe I know he is an expert in this field. It’s also ur duty as a mom to imbibe some things in ur children no matter how young. Drum it into their head not to touch anyone’s private part or allow anyone touch their own. Even daddy and mummy.
Pedophile alert! Please beware! !!
This is really serious, hw cld d father pretend not 2 know when his dick was up n i guess he ws actually enjoying every bit of it, he ws neva tipsy.
Pls protect ur gals. Hw sure r u that he was not the person who taught her to do that, maybe in ur absence. Now she z used to it n he z pretending not to know in ur presence. Keep an eye on him whenever he z with them alone.
No matter the ages of your children should you and your husband undress in front of them. Are you sure you two have not been having sex in their presence.? You had better stop the rubbish stop abusing their minds, Go get a bigger apartment if you are choked up in the one you are now and save your children future
From your post,
it seems he has been allowing your daughter to play with his manhood.
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Sit your husband down and talk to him about this
and tell him never to do such again.
Also dont forget to pray…pray together.
Please this children are very innocent, its ur place as parents to guide them. Don’t allow them play wit ur private part ? for u to notice what happened it means ur not a careless mum, nd ur aware of the things going on in our society. Refresh ur mind forgive ur spouse.. BUT B VERRRRRRRRY CAREFUL..
Why did you flog her?
U need to sit with ur hubby when he’s sober and explain why this is so wrong. Imagine, he wasn’t naked, but ur daughter found her way into his boxers. He needs to know that if he keeps allowing it, ur daughter will not know it’s wrong, and someone will take advantage of her in the future.
Also start ur children up on sex education, it’s never too early. Praise Fowowe has books/materials on sex education for children ages 18 months to 18 years.
Pls tell ur hubby to stop it, now he’s making u so conscious, and ur mind will be unsettled whenever u’re not at home with them.
Pls take charge of ur daughters security the best u can. God bless u
Lord have mercy
Your husband is sick. Pls leave before he destroys your daughter’s life forever. And mind you, he wasn’t angry you poured water on the floor rather he was angry he was caught and used the water on the floor as an excuse.
U were engrossed in a movie, OK.
Then u also ddnt knw ur daughters Cud av acquired same blood of their parents.