Dear MIM: How Do I Get Even With This Evil Friend Bent On Ruining My Home?
My husband and I live in Europe and were happily married until an evil friend of mine struck.
The whole incident started when my friend told me that my husband made a move on her. It was a big shock to me but my hubby denied it, saying that she had tried to seduce him and must have decided to report her own version when he warned her to desist to free herself of any blame. Hubby and I discussed and resolved the matter. I subsequently forgave my friend secretly, without telling her about what my hubby said. We however distanced ourselves from each other, even though she was still in touch with my family because I trust my hubby.
Meanwhile, my friend sales baby items, so, yesterday, I ordered some things from her but wasn’t able to go and collect them. She then told me that she would drop the items at our house after picking her kids from school because she might end up selling it to another person since it’s almost out of stock. She did as she promised. However, on her arrival, she seemed to be in a hurry to go, so, l asked her why, and she said her hubby had travelled and there was no one to help, so, she needed to be home in order to get things done on time for her kids. I let her be and she left.
Four hours later, I received a call from the Police that my husband had been arrested for rape, abuse and trespassing. I found out that this same friend of mine who delivered the items to me made the allegations against my husband. She alleged that he came to her house, held her hostage for three hours, raped her three times and abused her kids. What I don’t get is why she accused my husband of such act?
I called her and gave her a piece of my mind but she dropped the call while I was still speaking without saying a word. I was later arrested for verbal abuse because she recorded the call. I was asked to pay a fine and warned never to get close to her or I’ll be arrested.
My husband and I have a barely 3-month-old baby and looking at things, he stands the risk of spending 10 – 15 years in prison for a crime he didn’t commit, thanks to this friend of mine from hell. I am so upset and disappointed.
She has always been the envious type – always nagging about her husband’s shortcomings and comparing him to my husband. I blame myself for missing the signs before now.
Please pray for my family and advise me on what to do. I really need to deal with this devil of a woman who wants to ruin my family.
That woman is the devil himself. For now, pray for your husband please so the charges can be dropped if he is truly innocent. That’s the most important thing right now and not how to get even with your friend. She will stop at nothing to ruin you so let her be and keep your distance. Loose her number and loose the friendship immediately.
If the accused lives in Europe as the complainant had stated, then the case will fail. Unless some facts are not disclosed but here are the tit bits to quash the case. At what time did she call the woman to state that she would drop by to give her the baby clothes (all calls have time and both the caller and the called service providers can produce log calls indicating what time the calls were exchanged). Secondly, for rape to be proven, there must be forced entry into the vagina and in most cases semen or dna evidence can be traced. If the raper had used condom, evidence of latex will be seen and wounds around the vagina will also be noticed. Unfortunately if the guy had actually been lured by the woman and he had consented to having sex, in which case, the lady would have had strong evidence, then he is in real trouble. The second scenario can be dangerous depending on where he was arrested. If arrested in the lady’s house, too bad for him as it may be hard for him to exonerate himself. Better not to be in any of the 3 people’s shoes.
There should be evidences if she was truly raped. The investigators should get a DNA sent to the lab and if she’s not saying the truth, she will be heading to jail.
Only prayers can help you now and it would be easier if he had a witness to prove he wasnt with her. If he was then it’s going to be difficul
haaass
na wa oooo…madam u need to be prayerful ooo…..God would save ur hubby….
She reported that your husband made advances at her but you chose to trust your husband(because he denied it) instead of making your own investigation. Have you stopped to ask yourself certain questions? What if she was right? What if she stopped telling you because you didn’t believe her? Was your husband arrested in his office or shopping complex or road? What was he doing in her house without your knowledge? That you choose to trust your husband doesn’t mean he is trustworthy. Since you didn’t believe her she took matters into her hands. This could be her way of proving what she told you. She obviously has overwhelming evidence against him. I know you reacted out of anger by calling to abuse her. My advice is; irrespective of who is right or wrong, call her and beg for forgiveness about abusing her earlier. Beg her to consider your baby and drop her charges against your husband. Being aggressive will not help you at this point
you said it all my dear. Kindly beg her to drop the case o.
You just said exactly my mind!!! Too quick to defend the husband!! Men that will lie and swear that thunder should strike them even when they know that they are telling lies!!!! She should just beg her friend and close the case or follow the case closely to find out how innocent or guilty the husband has been
God help oooh, Anger will not dodo you any good now, beg her get her family to help, for your baby sake