Dear MIM: What Would You Do If You Had A Mother-in-law Like Mine?

Please kindly advise me.

My husband brought my mother-in-law from the village and she has been staying with us since December last year. I have tried to take very good care of her but she gives me a lot of problems, rains curses on me and my children each time there is an issue. She complains about everything I do in the house and about every food I offer her. She tells me to my fave that my cooking is bad. Like a CCTV, she takes record of all I do at home and reports to my husband when he returns from work.

She comes into our bedroom at will, spits on the rug in the living room when no one is watching and tries to turn my children against me by telling them that they should only take care of their father and not their mother when we grow old.

Sometimes she lies to my husband that I don’t feed her food, meanwhile, she has dumps the food I give her into the trash bin.

Last week, she packed her things and left for my sister-in-law’s house. But this morning ,my husband told me he wants to go and bring her back because his family members have begged him to and also because my sister-in-law’s house is too small and not conducive enough for her. I truthfully told him that I don’t want her back as she doesn’t give me peace when she is here. This made him very angry.

Please kindly advise me on what to do with my mother-in-law who is in her 80’s.