Dear MIMster: Should I Confess My Infidelity To My Unfaithful Husband?
I need your help here. I deserve all the insults I will receive on this page but I know it will save my life.
My marriage has been in many troubles throughout. I have been married for the past 5 years without children. The first 3 years was hell for me because my husband was going out with a girl he date while he was dating me. (I didn’t know because he introduced her to me as a friend).
One day before we got married, I was in a car with my fiancé when this lady called and he spoke with her for about 10 minutes because the lady wanted him to buy her lunch. I took the phone from him and told the her we were getting married the following month so if she is a friend to my boo, she has to be my friend too. She told me she was aware but because I had texted her to stop forcing herself on my guy in the past, she has decided to continue the affair with him.
We got married and my husband still constantly called (sometimes in my presence), texted, and visited this lady and would even spend the night in her house. I prayed, talked with him, told my parents and his parents to speak to him but he always denied the affair in front of his parents but continued doing the same things.
One day, he locked me at home and went to see the lady. So, I rang my nephew who drove to our house. I gave him a spare key to open the gate from outside so I could go out. Then I drove to the lady’s house. I saw my hubby’s car packed there, so I went to call his mother. I was able to convince my mother-in-law to drive to the lady’s house with me and she did.
When we got there, I told my husband to choose one. His girlfriend or me and to my face, he told me that he chose her. I was so shocked that I packed my things and moved out of my matrimonial home. He came begging later and asked his friend to apologise to me on his behalf. Then my husband, his friend, his mistress and I had a conference call when he told the lady it was over between them. The lady accepted on phone.
I thought everything was okay till about 5 months later when I realized my husband was still in contact with her through chats and phone calls in my absence. I was so confused and thought God had abandoned me because my marriage was not working and I was also not able to have children after all the fasting and prayers, and two IUI attempts.
There is this married man at my work place who has been complimenting my good looks. I became friends with him and we started having an affair. My husband suspected it and he changed totally.
I fell in love with this married man (I know it is wrong) and now he has also realized what he is doing is wrong and has left me. I’ve been praying to God to forgive me and restore all I have lost, most importantly, my dignity. I have decided to return every penny this married man gave me and confess to my husband for forgiveness.
My question is should I go ahead with the confession?
Nop confess to ur God ad have a real u turn
If telling him will bring problem in ur family pls dnt go to ur God In prayers
Go ahead and confess
Please don’t confess. This is one secret that should die with you please. You would be shocked that after forgiving your hubby, he won’t forgive you for this. Let by gone be by gone please. Just forget about it and don’t do it again. If you confess, it will be like a tit for tat, it will be like you decided to get back at him. Forget the past, face the future and love your husband. Ask God for forgiveness and move on.
Confessed to God alone. Don’t make the mistake of telling him oo. He will use it against you for the rest of your life.
Please my dear, I hate adultery but the fact that you have had a change of course and confessed to God is ok. Please DO NOT confess to your husband. He will throw you out without blinking an eye OR He will fortify himself and show you a bigger dimension of infidelity and make you pay dearly for it each day you remain his wife. Except you are no longer interested in the marriage.
hmmmnnnn…
I wouldn’t blame or judge you because you craved care, attention and love and jumped at the first man to fulfill those needs. Start by forgiving yourself. Confess to God and let it be.
My dear confessing to him is d biggest mistake u will do. Go to God in prayer and ask 4 forgiveness. If do he will use it against u and make ue home miserable 4 u
Ask God for forgiveness, if you still don’t have peace go to someone you respect and share with the person
his a bad man,leave him.God will give u another man.He enjoys seeing you beg for him be coz u have done it in the past.All the best sis
Nop don’t it is dangerous, rather confess to God and don’t do it again
Hmm. Not confessing is a great idea. He could go back and cheat again. But you said he changed after he suspected your infidelity. Well he may even think you already have done it. But bear in mind that he could also find out. Such things I don’t know but somehow come out. So would you prefer him hear from someone or you. But wisdom is needs here. You know your husband so you can decide. All the best and whoever insults you is immature.
The guy doesn’t deserve any form of confession.
Na wa o
do not tell your husband at all
That man does’nt love you.Divorce him and you shall meet your soulmate.Subconsciously you are not getting pregnant because you are forcing the the marriage to work.
you better don’t try it. men are not worth it oo. Talk to God n move on, it’s good u know what u av done is wrong. if u were a man d society will heap d blame on ur partner’s attitude…
You should confess ooo. Because you have a conscience and there is something we call restitution. But you won’t do that alone. Inform atleast a matured adult who is close to u guys to assist you in the confession. If ye throws u out then you have done what is required. You won’t go around with burden and guilt in ur heart. You will be free. You don’t even kboq if he’s d one having fertility problem.