Dear MIMster: I Am Truly Disturbed And Sad By My Pastor’s Revelation On Who My Future Husband Is

My story is a bit lengthy so please bear with me as my Pastor’s revelation has left me disturbed and sad.

I am 28years old and an entrepreneur and a youth leader in the apostolic church I attended from birth. I love God, I have always lead a simple and guarded lifestyle. But I still know how to have fun.

My first boyfriend was at University and we were together for over 6 years. He went abroad to study. In 2012, I went abroad to study as well when he was done and ready to come back home. We had the normal long-distance relationship issues but resolved them.

I came back home in 2014 and we started to discover how different we were. During our time apart, we picked up new desires in life, new friends and new everything so things didn’t work out as much. I spoke to my immediate pastor (youth pastor) who prayed counselled and prayed with me.

During prayers, he told me several revelations about my boyfriend. He said he was seeing another lady and I should be calm, everything would unravel itself. True to his words, we broke up in December 2014 and he got married in February, 2015.

In November 2014, before he got married, I went for service and met a nice young man at the NYSC camp, he was my volleyball coach. We fast became friends. He told the man-o-war commandant that I was his girlfriend when he was asked about his girlfriend, but nothing happened between us. He kept encouraging me during my relationship issues.

When my ex and I broke up. My new friend asked me out but I told him to go pray about it. I hesitated because he is Igbo and I am Yoruba. But my youth pastor encouraged me the whole time through prayers and told me to be open minded. We prayed and fasted and all I felt was peace and happiness, so we started dating after my ex got married.

He has been everything my ex wasn’t. He pushes me to be the best, he encouraged my business. Built my business website, sourced for customers, manages my social media sites and all, and provides for me with the little he has. He makes sure we go on dates at least once a month and I go to the spa because of my tedious job. He ensures our spiritual life doesn’t suffer too as we take a day of the week to pray and fast. He introduced me to his mother and siblings and we are planning to do our introduction next year.

I never had to impress his family to get their love which they shower me with, especially his mum, but I had to always break my back for my ex’s family and they never totally accepted me even though we are both Yorubas.

Fast forward to this week, the main pastor asked for me to see him. I went in and we started talking. He said he never knew his wife before marrying her, but God revealed her to him. He said when he went to the mountain years ago, where he was shown a vision that I am the youth pastor’s wife. He said he told the pastor but the man just laughed and didn’t say anything. (Pastor and I grew up together and even did our baptismal classes together. He is about 2- 3 years older than me but went to theological school after we finished at the university) but we never talked about a relationship or had those kind of feelings, at least from my own side.

I just told the senior pastor I will pray about it. I honestly don’t intend to. I love my man to bits and if the young pastor saw this vision too, he would have spoken up years ago. Why didn’t he? Why did he keep being a friend and encouraging me with my relationships? Should I approach him and clear the air or do I let sleeping dogs lie? I honestly don’t even think praying about it is an option.I think it’s already a thought set in motion in my heart, the moment I was told. This can cloud my thoughts and misinterprete God’s signs even if I pray. I know God is not the author of confusion but I am truly disturbed and sad. Please advise.