Dear MIMsters: Does This Mean He Has Dumped Me Again Despite Our Marriage Plans?
I am a lady in my early 30s. I was in a relationship with a guy about 6 years ago but we broke up. He later left Nigeria to U.S.A. around this time in 2015. Surprisingly, in December 2015, he called and told me he would be coming to Nigeria soon for us to get married. I thought he was joking until he started sending me money. He also kept calling me every day.
Communication was tight and frequent between us and we started making verbal marriage preparations. I know his family very well and we had planned for me to go and see them anytime from now to make further preparations easier as soon as he returned.
However, quite unlike him, for two weeks now, he has stopped calling me. I don’t know what I have done wrong and can’t remember offending him in any way. Usually, we talk almost every day and he has been the one doing the calling. I don’t call because if I do, he will end the call and call me back immediately, except he is busy at work. Our frequent calls have been on since December, 2015. I’ve sent him messages but he didn’t reply. Yet, I keep seeing him online on social media.
My question is, should I just act as if I don’t care since he is the one giving me attitude or should keep sending him messages even if he does not reply me? Mind you, he is coming to Nigeria in December. What could be going on? Has he lost interest? Is he dumping me again? Please advise me as I don’t know what to do right now.
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I think he has someone over there he doesn’t want to know about you. Probably an American he is using. Stop sending him messages or calling him jawe. Just brace yourself up for the worse to happen should in case he wants to break your heart oh.
Stop calling him, there’s something he’s hiding. Let him be for now, if he shows up from the blues again, ask him to hold on with the marriage plans until he gets back so you guys can talk face to face.
@ Mon, I don’t think is always about one cheating d@ e attitude change but it could also be, he wants to no her reaction should he stop caring/care less. so to me, she can keep calling or texting but take caution should it be him abandon her again so she can’t be heartbroken. Prayer too can make d/f’s
You broke up with him and out of the blue he started calling you and saying he wants to marry you? Did you reconcile whatever led to your break up? He probably was pulling your legs and you fell for it or he needed to be married to get some privileges in the US and you were the person that came to his mind. My advice is that before you marry a guy that is living far away run a background check on him to know his situation over there. Pls stop calling him and If he starts calling you again, tell him to put the wedding plans on hold that you need time to consider his proposal. You have to confirm his status over there. Marriage is a lifetime commitment.
Visit his people and tell them you’ve not heard from him and wish to know if all is well. You’ll get your answers from the way they receive you, their actions, etc. If he has changed his mind, they will definitely know.
I’ll advice you stop any form of communicating with him for now except he gets in touch with you. December is around de corner, wait and see wat he’s up to meanwhile commit everything into God’s hands. All de best
u are right just be strong and leave him for now
Please pick up your life and forget him, stop calling him, don’t bother him again,
If he wants you let him come for you, you have done enough be strong