Parenting Your Toddler: Top Dos & Don’ts You Should Note

One of the most defining stages in a child’s life is the toddler years. These are ages between 1 to 3 years and are usually called the terrible twos. As your child reaches this milestone, you discover he can actually do stuff on his own, follow instructions and his character becomes more apparent. For some parents, this period can be a stressful time, as they get frustrated by their toddler’s behaviour.

Here are some general dos and don’ts guaranteed to bring out the best in your toddler, making sure he goes from terrible to terrific!

Dos

• Praise: Nothing gives as much joy to a toddler as words of affirmation and praise. It could be a simple hug, smile or a high five that makes your toddler’s day. Backing up your gestures with positive words like “well done princess” or “great job son”, will encourage more good behaviour. Toddlers who are surrounded by praise and warmth end up absorbing all the positive energy and this shines through in all they do.
• Do as I do: Toddlers are like photocopying machines. If they see you speak nicely to people, the chances are that they will do same. Use your own behaviour to guide your child. If you want her to inculcate good habits, model good habits always.
• Routine: If you haven’t already introduced routine into your child’s life, now is the time! Children thrive on routine and they actually feel more secure. Your toddler should have a fixed time for supper, bath and bedtime. Toddlers who have a routine are usually calmer and better behaved.
• Childproof: Your toddler is smarter now and all his senses are more developed. Thus, the childproofing you installed when she started to crawl has to be modified. Don’t leave buckets of water exposed, climbable object lying around or anything that could be a potential risk to your curious toddler. Ensure your home is safe for your little explorer and don’t leave dangerous objects within reach.
• Make your child feel grown up: Children take pride in carrying out simple and age-appropriate household chores. It makes them feel responsible and grown up. You could start with very simple chores like asking him to clear up his toys after play. Make such chores fun and soon you will find that your child is always eager to help out. This will also increase his self-esteem.

Don’ts:

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• Don’t reward bad behaviour: A toddler knows how to hold you hostage if you let him. If your child decides to misbehave in public, your saying, ‘if you stop screaming, I will buy you ice cream’, is just teaching her that whenever she wants ice cream, she should just scream in public. Instead, scold her when she does something naughty. Try saying, ‘if you don’t stop screaming, you will go to the naughty corner’. Let him learn that bad behaviour always attracts consequences, not rewards.
• Don’t ignore bad behaviour: Parents tend to get weary of the many stunts a toddler can pull off that it’s sometimes easier for them to want to look the other way when their tot misbehaves. This often breeds more indiscipline.
• Distinguish the child from bad bahaviour: Rather than saying ‘you’re a bad child’, try saying ‘what you did was very bad!’ This lets your child know that his behaviour is a choice.
• Don’t break promises: When you make your toddler a promise, make sure you keep it. You may think your 2-year old is too young to remember, but unconsciously, you’re building up a reputation of being viewed as an untrustworthy parent. When your child doesn’t trust you, then, it easier for him to disobey you.

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