Dear MIMsters: How Do I Appease My MIL Who Is Furious With Hubby And I
How do I appease my mother-in-law?
Last weekend, hubby and I took the kids to see his mum in the village. Before alighting from the car, I sighted MIL cleaning her eyes vigorously. When we got closer, I discovered she had conjunctivitis a.k.a Apollo.
Now, I have a four-months-old infant and a three year-old daughter. I know very well that conjunctivitis is contagious and I simply didn’t want my girls contracting it.
When we got closer, hubby commented on her eyes and enquired if she was on treatment and she replied yes, she was. As she stretched out her hands to collect the baby, I told her in a jokingly and politely that my baby will contract Apollo if she doesn’t wash her hands before carrying her.
MIL took offence and started raking at hubby who tried to calm her and to get her to see reasons why she should at least wash her hands. She refused doing it and claimed hubby and I were trying to insult her. Hubby later got tired and left a check with her and we left the house.
Our initial plan was to spend two days with her in their house but instead, hubby had to lodged us in a hotel. My hubby says he can’t come and have his babies catching Apollo when we can avoid it. Now, MIL is busy accusing us of insulting her and denying her access to her grandkids.
Hubby says I should ignore her comments that she’ll come around when she is done fuming but she is still fuming and won’t pick hubby’s calls.
Please how do I go about this? I don’t want to be seen as the cause of problems between MIL and hubby.
Follow your husbands advice and ignore her simple. She will come around when she’s tired.
I still think you guys were too forward.
Her son will appease her the way he knows best so just calm down
Nawa oo,i Understand the mother inlaw and same as d daughter inlaw
Your shouldn’t have blush her like that, your baby might not contact the virus at first contact, #justsaying
Very hard o,but why r u worrying urself if hubby says not to?
MIL should even be the one to say the kids should not come near her since she has pink eyes
Me I fear that thing like kilode and wl always protect my kids from it
Both you and hubby are wrong!
Apollo is very treatable and you aren’t 100% certain of your baby getting it through 1st contact.
You shd have let her hold the baby 1st; then you tell her gently that there’s a need for her to wash her hands/be careful so the baby doesn’t get it. You can go the extra mile to arrange the water for her to wash her hands.
Don’t let science replace love, I can just imagine how Mama felt.
You are very wrong. If you were the one with it won’t you care for your child again. Or if she were to be your mother will do that to her.pls women we should try and be calm towards MILs cos we will be one some day.
hmmm let her son handle her dey understand demselves
That was thoughtless of you, the baby couldn’t have contacted it that way even if the baby did just a drop or two of your breast milk into the pink eyes would have solve it. As if it was not that same woman that raised the man you call your husband. Do that to so evil minded people then you start running to prayer house with the child ( God forbids) as matter be now you better go beg her otherwise you are play with your peace of mind.