Dear Mimsters: I am not a bad husband or father but I’m not enjoying my marriage
I am a young man and have been married for 5 years with two children but I am not enjoying my marriage
This is because my wife attacks, abuses and even denies me food at the slightest provocation. She doesn’t listen to me nor take my instructions. My wife knows my salary but I don’t know hers. It took my wife four years to change her name to my name as she is a very ambitious woman who dedicates all her time and energy to her job.
Our son’s left leg is not straight. I noticed it 2 months ago and told my wife to take the boy to the hospital for scan and X-ray as directed by the doctor, but my wife has not done it till this moment. The hospital bill is paid by my company.
Since we got married, I’ve celebrated her birthday every year but my wife has never given me a birthday gift. On my last birthday, she wished me happy birthday at 7 p.m. That hurt me so much. I have tried every thing possible to make her understand how a couple should live together but to no avail.
My wife talks to me as if I’m her house boy and always insists on her decision. My job takes me out of the country often but my wife will not call or start a chat with me even though she’s always online especially in the night.
Last week, I went through her phone while she was asleep and saw different negative chats with men. In the morning, I asked her about those raw chats and she denied meeting them. She said that they are just her admirers.
Mimsters, I need your advice as I am sick and tired of my marriage due to my wife’s attitude .I know I’m not perfect but I’m not a bad father or husband.
Really? Here the reverse is the case. I don’t think this woman is really into you, if you cherish your family, you put them first in anything you are doing.
You guyz courted before you eventually get married, you notice all this before you decided to marry her, abi. Changing who she is will be rather difficult now; it should be a continual process. It seem she enjoys her career more than her family, time will tell when she looks back nobody to lean on………continue to be the good Dad/husband you have always been
Have you talked to her about this attitude of hers? If yes, and she’s still the way she is, then please pray for her.
she doesn’t love you rather she loves her carrer
Hmmmm!!! How come am not hearing comments like”forget him and move on” in d reverse sense? Y are women always partial in their judgement??. Pls Oga let her be,u can’t force her to take her marital life serious naa,time n situations will make her realize where she failed. Keep doing ur best for d kids n do all u can to remain a gud husband to her n a gud father to ur kids. Time shall tell
Na wa o! Some women are passing through hell from the hands of men while here is the reverse of it..before u make any harsh decision please think of your kids, u don’t know the effect broken home have on kids and believe am taking From experience , please put her in prayers and talk to her.
u dont exist in her world
Please create time in your busy schedule and take your child to the hospital. Sit her down and tell her all these things, tell her how you feel about her behavior and then leave her to her thoughts. Continue playing your role as a husband and father and God will bless you
I m sorry but how come nobody is saying anything abt the baby’s leg,if your wife isnt taking the issue serious i suggest u take him to the hospital yourself,he is your child too,abt your wife,please talk to her,pray abt it and continue to be the loving father and husband….
Hmmmmm….talk to someone she respects, that may help!
It is a challenge but not difficult with God. One mistake we (the married) mostly do is avoiding the manufacturer (God) and we try to handle it our way. What you need first is grace from God., ask, 2. You know her seek the right wisdom to live with her. 3. Do this not necessary because you want her to change but for you to be happy. 4. Choose to be happy because of your children. 5. You may have to change certain things in your own life, if it is done sincerely it will affect her positively. Someone siad the best way to change a spouse is for you to change. Take a scriptural stand for your wife and your marriage.
Please sir ,i won’t advise you quit d marriage coz of your kids but for you to keep ur sanity you have to have a means of releasing all those pent up emotions. Am sure when she is tired she will come around. You have only 2 options which are divorce her or get a Mistress. Its as simple as that.