Dear Mimsters: I think My Husband Married Me So He Could Exploit Me

I have been married for three years now. My husband was working in an investment company. Unfortunately, the owner of the company mismanaged everything and it collapsed.

Three months into the marriage, we lived for almost a year depending on my salary. We later came out with a plan to quit the job since he was holding on with the hope that it would bounce back. We moved back to the city where he and his family were with the intention of securing a new job or setting up his own job.

I intend going back to school with my one year old boy so we can be closer to him. I secured a loan, paid my fees and then gave him the rest to add to the money for his business.

Mimsters, I just realised that my husband is a chronic womanizer. I go to school and return home on vacations. He visits me at school too. As I’m writing, his business has collapsed as he has used all the money on women. I have caught him about eight times cheating. He would quickly kneel down and beg (faking), but the next moment he’s back. Meanwhile, before we got married, the first thing I made him understand is I dislike a womanising husband. He pretended to be holy, took me to church, prayed and many more.

Recently, he intended to abandon heavily pregnant me and our son for a girlfriend’s party. I caught him red handed. I was tired and told him I need a separation. He doesn’t behave like a married man and doesn’t even know where his ring is. I’ve realised that he married me because I’m working and so he can exploit me.

We are squatting in his aunty’s house and being fed. I take care of myself at school. He didn’t send his mum nor mine any Christmas gifts. He is again pretending to be remorse. I want him to know I’m done. I asked him to go ahead with the relationship. I texted the lady and pled with her to marry my husband. I’m damn serious, but I don’t want my mum to know because she would be depressed. My dad passed on about a year ago.

How do I handle this?