Dear Mimster: Should I ahead with this wedding or not?
Should I go ahead with this wedding even though my parents have not given consent?
My fiancé wants to get married to me but my parents have not given their consent. I am from Onicha in Ebonyi State. My parents are against our union because he is from Isiala Ngwa north of Abia State and they eat human beings according to them. I have begged them and done everything humanly possible for them to see reasons with me that it does not exist. I even told them to go to the village and find out for themselves but all my efforts seem useless. I have even told their church pastor and some of relatives to also help me talk to them but they have totally refused. I have also prayed, fasted and had sleepless night because of this issue.
It’s more than a year now since my fiancé came to see them and still also trying his own possible best to come into the family but my family doesn’t even want to give him that chance to even talk to them, so nothing is still happening.
On the other hand, my fiancé’s family, especially his mother has been disturbing him to get married because he is the only son. He told me last week that he is tired of waiting since my parents are still adamant to all our pleading. Infact, they said I’m the worst daughter on earth for bringing such a man to them to be their inlaw.
I have received insults and have also been neglected by my parents because of this. The only option left now is to get pregnant but I don’t even know whether there will still accept him with the pregnancy because my mum has told me that even if heaven falls she will not accept him and I love him so much.
I need advice on whether to get pregnant or let him go. I’ve been totally confused and I’ve not been at rest even though I’m preparing for my exams very soon. He told he is behind any action I want to take even if it involves us going ahead with a court marriage without their consent. Please give me a practical advice on this issue before I live to regret any step I take now.
Abeg this one pass me.
Dear poster don’t do what you will do and regret it. I never believed in this until it happened to me. An isiala ngwa man got me pregnant in my second year in school, after giving birth to my son, he did everything possible for me to be his wife and I accepted. Although my parents kicked against it but he pretended to be a nice person including the parents. we started preparing for the traditional/white wedding which would have taken place in march 2017. Do you know that the same man, mother, father and the whole family asked me not to come near them again with 4 months pregnancy. They took my son away from me. So be wise in your decision so that you don’t regret it.
It’s very nice to seek your parents consent when making this kinda decision.
hmmm dont go ahead…