5 Signs That Show You’re Making Your Children Self Centred

One alarming reality is that many parents today, are raising children who are self centred. They do this many times with the best of intentions, but the end result is a child who grows into an egocentric adult. Accepting that parenting is not an easy job, as there is no handbook for it, her are 7 signs to change or avoid, in order to prevent your child from becoming narcissistic:

• You recognize selfish traits in yourself and don’t take steps to get better

There are a number of things that are hereditary, personality traits are one of them. Chances are, your child got this trait from you. It would be a good time to re-evaluate yourself, so as to help your child grow into a better person. Soon, when you are old folks, and your grown-up child is too wrapped up in themselves to visit you, you will possibly regret not taking some time to work on these things now.

• You lead your child to believe they can’t fail

Putting your child on a pedestal is very easy to do because you love them, but acknowledging faults is human, and most parents do not let their children see this because they want them to feel perfect. It’s okay if your child messes up. In fact it’s better if they mess up while they are children, so they learn how to handle that. It’s a healthy thing to be able to see that everyone has weaknesses, and teaching your child this, helps them to realize that they can never truly be perfect because they are human.

• You view affection as something to be earned and therefore show little warmth

When you hug your child only when they complete a task, or get a good report at school, there will be a void in the relationship. There is a difference in affection and appreciation, your child doesn’t need to be put down or made to feel like they need to work to get your affection, if they do, this will make them get engrossed in themselves, or worse, in something or someone else.

• You Excessively Brag and Make Excuses for Your Child

You should be proud of your child, but if you make excuses for their behaviors instead of showing them how to deal with not being perfect, you are making that child miss out a on learning opportunity. A narcissistic personality can develop, if you shield them from facing the reality of their decisions and actions. Help them learn, not shield them from it.

• You compare your child to other kids and tell them how they measure up

It’s important that you aren’t putting undue pressure on your children to be better than their peers at everything, or tell them how they need to measure up to another child. For example, your child comes 3rd in a class of 25 students, instead of encouraging your child positively, you tell them they can do better, the child who came 1st doesn’t have two heads. They then grow up striving to be perfect at all costs, even if it means they push everybody else away.