DEAR MIMsters: See How My Husband Has Been Deceiving Me Because of a Girl
I just found out that my husband has been deceiving me.
My husband lives abroad, and we are making plans for me to join him soon. I took in last year and gave birth early this year. I had not seen my husband since I had our baby. It was just by GOD’S grace I gave birth without any complications because my body was so tight.
He initially told me he would come back to witness our child’s delivery, but I told him not to worry because his arrival was a few days to my delivery and I was the only one available to pick him up from the airport. I was not meant to be driving so close to my delivery date.
You can imagine my shock when I found out that my husband still flew into the country but lodged in a hotel for two days whilst he lied to me that he was still abroad. Our cab man also confirmed this to me. Days after, he came home, spent some days with me and told me he would be going for a wedding and would return in another two days.
I begged him to stay for my delivery but he refused. I put to bed the day after he travelled for the wedding. He didn’t witness the delivery he said was the reason he flew into Nigeria for in the first place. I cried my eyes out but later forgot about it.
Now he has sent some things to me, telling me that his friend would come and pick up a wrapped bag and send it to the owner. I asked who the owner was, as I was the one who always ran the errands for him, but he told me not to worry about it as he did not want to stress me. Curiosity got the best of me and I opened the bag. I saw an expensive handbag, clothes,shoes, bras and panties. My mind tells me that it belongs to the girl he has been seeing. I don’t know how to handle this. Should or how do I get the girl’s number?
Please advice me.
What do you need the girl’s number for? Face your man instead. He should explain to you and don’t take any lies from him. Make him regret why he sent those stuffs. Are you scared of your husband ni?
What are you doing with the girl’s number? You don’t have business with her, your husband is the one you should settle the scores with. Make sure you seize those stuff and make him explain the owner, then deliver it by hand to her. If he insist, then confiscate the contraband goods. What kind of monkey dey work barboon dey chop be that?
I tire ohhhhh. Designers u say. Well those are ur gifts for giving him a child. Wut nonsense.
hmmm…speechless how heartless cn men be.face ur man
sized the wrapped and still asked him to xplan .though men lie so much
my take is… you have to be diplomatic about the whole fin so u don’t loose grip of yourself and hurt yourself the more remember is better to confront someone wen u are seen d person than someone dat is away…now let’s analyse it… for him to come when u are due and still branched and finally attended a wedding and missed the sole reason he came home means he is d care free type, d I don’t care type, she will be okay type, I can handle her type….. now confronting him he can say anyfin to you and wat will you do about it… it doesn’t stop him from sending another package if actually it is for his girl… another thing is you are not even sure so you have to be diplomatic and smart…. what you will do is… pretend u don’t know the content of the bag and show no interest when the person comes try to find out where its been delivered to and if possibly to who just jokingly… if d person doesn’t tell u or u feel he is hiding some info den somefin is definitely wrong it cud b an instruction from your husband den u can refuse to release the items ask the person to go… that you will get back to him on the items… den u can confront your husband calmly about d issue don’t loose your temper he can use it against you… tell him dat u were not comfortable wif d person he asked to deliver d item if u can deliver it if he agrees den two fins eda dre is nothing between dem he may be helping out or dey have somefin and she knows about you but atleast you know her u can proceed from dre on ur next action… but if he strongly refuse den somefin is definately wrong which u can point out making him aware of the fact dat u opened d bag to know d content when the person was acting funny of the location to which it was suppose to be delivered… afterwhich u will make him understand dat d bag will remain with you until u know wat is going on… den give him space avoid his cals for d main time… on the oda way round if d person tells u d location and even agrees to be going dre to deliver it immediately tell him u are going around dat area dat u will join him and wen u are approaching there tell him d meeting u were going for was cancelled dat u will join him to deliver d items wen u get dre be very observant on possible funny or absurd reaction of the receiver from dre u can get info if u feel she doesn’t know u act neutral and get info from d person about d items and possibly u can tease her dat d sender is generous observe if she is married or engaged or single or a wild type observe d setting of the house and with her replies to ur tease… it will give u an idea if they are dating or not… den u will no wat to do next weda confronting ur hubby is necessary… but remember pls control yourself so u don’t make trouble act calm and neutral if possible as per u escorted d person in delivering d package.. I hope I am helpful
Wat do u need her number for, but dont forget men hate women trying to fix dem. If u start talking about it he will come with u nag to much, so plssss tk kia of ur baby, pray to God and dont release dose stuff. Tell him u cant find them he shld come himself and look for them, and if he comes plssss b calm and just watch him loom for it, wen he is tired jokinly ask him” honey who whose those stuff dat u are criously looking for” plsss dont fight with ur husband. For all u knw someone might ask him to get dose stuff. So u use wisdom to get it from him not fight. God bless ur home
Dont forget men hate women trying to fix dem. If u start talking about it he will come with u nag to much, so plssss tk kia of ur baby, pray to God and dont release dose stuff. Tell him u cant find them he shld come himself and look for them, and if he comes plssss b calm and just watch him loom for it, wen he is tired jokinly ask him” honey who whose those stuff dat u are criously looking for” plsss dont fight with ur husband. For all u knw someone might ask him to get dose stuff. So u use wisdom to get it from him not fight. God bless ur home
Wallahi if na me….d items are mine to start with.dnt waste ur energy on d girl,she isn’t worth it. Call hubby n tell him dat u kno everything he has been hiding, how he came home n lied abt a wedding whereas he went to see a girl.infact make him believe u kno dis girl.tell him u kno those items are for her as u kno her size. Dnt let him kno u re in doubts else he will lie to u.stand ur grounds n see his confession. Tell him d only way for things to return back to normal is for him to come for u n ur baby. Home wrecker everywhere, d Lord is ur strength dear
Just wrap some other things in the pack, have the original items sold and spend the money. Don’t be caught doing it and make sure none of the items are found in your possession. The friend that is aiding them will be so confused and all of them will be forced to report to you or just accept their lots. I hope you are an African woman who will be able to keep a straight face and maintain innocence through out.