Dear MIMsters: My husband is asking me to choose between him and my sister
Please advice me as my husband is asking me to choose between him and my sister.
My sister called me and begged me to come visit her with my daughter as she misses her. She called hubby and told him the same thing. She kept calling and begging until hubby said I should go and spend three days with her. I called and told her that I wanted to spend three days with her and she said OK.
I went with a family friend whom she requested she be there. All was well until two days later when my sister and I had an argument. I told her I would be leaving the next day (that was the day I had to go back though). My sister said it’s because of the argument that’s why I am leaving.
In anger she took her phone to call my husband to report me. My hubby apologized on my behalf and asked her to forgive me as her little sister. She told my hubby she has disowned me and said a whole lot of nasty things about me. My husband also got angry and told her how disappointed he was with her. My sister hung up on my husband and refused to pick his calls or talk to me. Our family friend intervened and my sister warned her to stay out of it.
My husband then called me and told me to leave the house and go lodge in a hotel. I told him there was non available and it was very late so I had to manage her place for the night and leave the next day. I left the next day while my sister still refused to talk to me. Now I have made peace with my sister though I vow never to go to her place again. My husband is still angry with her and has refused picking her calls. He’s now telling me not to even pick her calls and if I do I should be ready to face the consequence.
Please help me on what to do…
She’s your blood. I don’t see why he should ask you to choose. I think you should talk to him some more about the issue and make him see why you can’t shut your sister out.
Your sister needs to apologize to your sister. After all your husband was trying to settle your quarrel with her and she was I’ll mannered and disrespectful.
You shouldn’t have settled with your Sister unless she apologized to him. Next time your husband will not stand up for you.
Sisters fight and don’t talk to each other for days. It’s not something absurd. Your sister took it too far though. Your sister has to apologise to your hubby and not on phone. Forgiveness is a gradual process. Don’t force your hubby.
I think you need more wisdom on how to handle this issue because the two party are very dear to you… You need to let your hubby see reason why you need to get along with your sister even if not so visible as the way it use to be before, same goes to your sister speak with her and let her see more reason why she need to get more along with her in-law because she love you as a claim by her….
Your sister’s behavior is so disrespectful.