Dear MIMsters: How Do I Win Hubby’s Family Over?
I have something bothering me which I want to share with you and hopefully will get some insight on how to cope. I have been married for 5 years now. My marriage has been ok, at least, hubby and I are forging on gradually and doing our best to better the our future. My worry is hubby’s family.
His mum doesn’t just like me. She was against our union as she didn’t believe I was up to any good with her son. She is of the opinion that I travelled abroad (where we met) for questionable reasons. Interesting, I had both my degrees abroad. I met hubby when I was studying for my MSc. Somehow, hubby insisted on getting married to me against his mother’s wishes. MIL had to agree and I felt all was ok.
Ever since we got married, there has never been a thing I have done to that my MIL appreciates. This is taking it’s toll on me to be honest. This behaviour also applies to my SILs. When one of them came visiting, she accused me of not serving her properly and a whole lot of other things and was always picking up a fight with me at the slightest opportunity. I have confided in hubby but he seems not to know what to do. The worst of it all is she disrespects my family. We are worth nothing to her.
ignore them
Do your best and leave her with her opinion
OMG!!!!! Why do people allow flimsy things bug them???? You live in your house and they live in theirs, what’s the biggie? If they come around, manage them until they leave and if they over-step their boundaries, state it clearly. I don’t let people trample on my right in the name of anything, I can never tread into your space or territory, I respect your boundaries and expect you to reciprocate and if you don’t, I give you a seat very fit for your butt. No basket for rotten mangoes, please,.
Please ignore them and your MIL especially. She’s not worth your precious time. Pretty please don’t worry your head about her attitude towards you.