Dear MIMsters: My Marriage Has Been Plagued With Sadness From the Start

I am a woman in mid 30s. I got married 7 years ago to someone I thought I knew but I have known in this marriage is sadness. We were friends for a while and communication was mostly on the phone as he was not baed in Nigeria then. To cut the story short, we got married and I joined him after a few months. Little did I know I was kissing my happiness goodbye.

His family has been on my case from the very first day and my husband is one who really fears his sisters, so I’m always on my own once they start bitching. We had a fight when I first joined him and my husband called me all sort of names that I can’t even erase from my memory and this has not stopped. He’s very immature. He might decide not to talk to me over trivial things for weeks. I have cried and cried and tried talking about the dangers of keeping malice but he just can’t help himself. He’s controlling and wicked.

Recently, I had to sell my car thinking I could use one of the two remaining cars but a week after, he took the keys from me, leaving me and my children to find our way while the car is parked and unused in our drive like that. He has been keeping malice with me for 3 weeks now and am I just tired while he carries on as normal. He does not behave like a man. We are like 2 wives in the house.

My blood pressure is going up everyday. This is beginning to affect me health as it keeps me thinking everyday. We have 2 children and he doesn’t even help me with any kind of house chores whatsoever. I am the only one doing everything in our home and I am not feeling very well right now. I am quite fed up with this life of not knowing what it is to have a happy marriage. What do you think I should do?