Dear MIMster: Help! My Husband Doesn’t Love Me Anymore

I need answer to this challenge. My husband is very toxic even though he does not beat me and he loves his kids, the problem that I am having now is that he doesn’t love me anymore.

Many times I had wanted to leave our marriage but because of my kids, I couldn’t. I have prayed, gone for counselling but there has been no changes yet. His toxic behaviour is the only and major problem that I have been battling with for the past 10 years we have been married.

His family, though, Christians, have told me after our first issue that he is not a man of one woman, that he can marry as many wives as he wants and because of this he befriends different types of women. Presently, there’s no intimacy between us and he has stopped talking to me for the past 6 months with no sex.

He doesn’t just want to be responsible to me. No love again. He makes sure he wrecks me financially and doesn’t give me money. He only listens to and is being controlled by his family, which affect the marriage. Not caring for me and giving me attention anymore, most especially when I am sick. He’s not ready to sort issues out with me whenever there is an argument. He keeps to himself, doesn’t talk to me any more and uses sex as a punishment for me.

This is affecting me emotionally and psychologically because I didn’t expect that my marriage would end this way considering how we started well. How do I continue to cope in this kind of a marriage without committing adultery. I really don’t want to commit adultery because it is against my belief and God’s word but I have needs.