Dear MIMsters: Was I Right to Call Off Our Official Introduction?

I have been in a relationship for over 8 years now. We are planning to have our official introduction this December but I have just told my fiancé that I am no longer interested in going ahead with the plans.

These are my reasons; I don’t get to see my so called fiancé anytime I want. I work in a bank which leaves me with only weekends to have some semblance of a social life. Meanwhile, I am currently running a program in school.

As busy as I am, I try to take time out to, plan to go and pay my fiancé visits. The problem is his cousin is also living with him and he doesn’t know how to tell him to excuse him when I am visiting. There was a time I went to see him and all three of us slept on the same bed. This is a self-contained apartment that we both paid for, though we will be moving out soon.

My fiancé cannot stand up for what he wants and I don’t think I should continue with someone who is not man enough. I called him on Tuesday to let him know that I will be coming over this weekend after my lectures and he told me to give him till Friday to decide. I called him on Friday and he said I should call him first thing on that morning. I called him on my way to school that morning and he just casually told me that he will be going out that day. He’ll rather come to my own house on the next weekend so I should not bother coming.

Considering all these, was I right to call off the wedding?