My Mum Never Cared for Me As a Baby, She Still Doesn’t Care
My life story goes thus; My mum left me at the mercy of whoever cared at an early stage of 3 months old for whatever reasons. Even though this broke me, it also sharpened, molded and made me into becoming the woman that I am today.
I am resolved to do my best for my kids now that I am a mother. Maybe that is why God had mercy on me and gave me a man who loves me more than himself and made a lot of sacrifices just to be with me.
Fast forward to today, my mum who was never there for me is now claiming rights and entitlements. I understand that she is still my mum, but by all means, she should leave me alone and allow me find my bearings in life. Through God’s favour, I’ve struggled to do on my own most of the things parents are supposed to do for their children and I still am. I’m not rich yet, far for from it but still struggling to make ends meet with my immediate family which I think is the most important. With the little I have, I have done my best.
Need i say, after all the sacrifice of accepting my mum back into our lives (my sister’s and mine), she has an uncountable number things I don’t want to remember. One of the ones I haven’t forgotten was when my second son was sick and critically admitted at the hospital. All hope was almost lost except for God’s intervention. At the same time, my Mum was more interested staying at home and demanding for choice meals to eat from my husband. There was food at home but no the ones she wanted.
She could clearly see that we were spending on my baby’s health care as we have no insurance and hubby was unable to go to work because he was busy running around to care for us all. My mum visited the hospital only ONCE and went back to her house even before baby was discharged. She saw my baby after that when he was almost 3-years and she came because she needed something from me as a daughter!
I apologise for my long post but I need you to know that if you must leave your marriage, please leave with your kids. And do not blame them for your failed marriage or relationship. I think it is easier for a child to bond with a distant father later in life than with a distant mother.
Very true at your last lines. Please ignore her. Being a parent is a responsibility and not a title. She wasn’t there, she wasn’t there so she should let you guys be with all the demands. Stop entertaining her excesses and put her where she belongs.
hHmmmmnn