Dear MIMsters: Am I Overreacting About Hubby’s New Crush?
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Please read my story carefully and tell me if I am overreacting as hubby claims. There is this young girl in my church who I didn’t know about initially. But due to my hubby’s passing comments about her, I ended up noticing her. Is this a crush or what?
A while ago, hubby told me he had advised the girl’s mum to allow her daughter join the youth department, which she joined but later stopped. Hubby occasionally makes comments like, “That girl is a nice girl,” “look at the girl’s mother.”
And my usual response would be, “oh ok!”
One day, he came home and said told me that the man of God gave a prophecy about the girl being an angel sent to her family. I responded, “Oh wow.” Lol.
I have been quietly watching him until yesterday in church. Hubby and I were seated in church when this girl’s mum walked by. A young man in the church walked up to her to greet her and quickly, hubby said to me, ” That’s the mum of the girl I have been telling you. I am sure that guy is greeting her because of her daughter.”
I asked hubby, “how did you know?” And his response weakened my bones.
He said, “I KNOW BECAUSE THAT GIRL IS A HOT GIRL. DO YOU KNOW THE NUMBER OF MEN CHASING AFTER HER?”
I am not happy about this realization and his comments and showed him so. He is acting all surprised and claims I am overreacting. Am l?
Hubby will never tell me that I am looking pretty or anything but when other men complement me even in his presence, he hates it and later gives them the cold shoulder thereafter.
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I think your husband loves her or maybe he’s even seeing her already. Better do your findings to be sure so as to nip it in the bud if at all he hasn’t started dating her. BTW, you are not overreacting. People talk alot about people they are fond of.
Your husband is telling the story the girl told her when he asked her out. He has gone to try his luck which obviously might work. Be vigilant.
Your husband may admire her but I doubt if he has a relationship with her. If there was anything to suspect, he wouldn’t have made that comment.
(I wonder if the guys in the church go to worship God or for a social encounter with attractive girls?)
Back to your husband, he is either emotionally dense toward you or he belongs to the group of men that will never compliment their wives, lest they grow “wings”. Either way, emotional starvation breeds pain and stress in any marriage.
I don’t think you overreacted but I believe a non-emotional, non- accusatory, heart to heart talk with your husband will help sort out things.
All the best.
he is actually. crushing on her