Dear MIMsters: It’s the 21st Century But My In-Laws Think Otherwise
Who is in this 21st century makes the kind of demand my in-laws are making and to think they think I don not have any say in the matter is unbelievable.
My husband had a child with his baby mama. When they parted ways, she took her child with her.
After I got pregnant for him, we had both the court and traditional weddings. When I gave birth to a bouncing baby boy, it became common to hear my mother-in-law say, soon, she will take child from me so she can raise him herself. She also says that she doesn’t want me to take their grandchild away from them. But I never took this seriously until yesterday.
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Yesterday, when I went to check on my in-laws, to my surprise, my father-in-law told me to bring my son and his personal effects on Friday, tomorrow because he is going to be living with them from now on.
This my son that we are talking about is just 17 months-old. Meanwhile, my husband and I live together but he is in support of his parents. just A year nd 5months pls advice me
please help me to post it,need advice from mimster,please in this 21st century, is it right for right for your in law to take your child from you,he is my only son ooo,that he should be staying with them,he is just 17months
Dear poster, you shouldn’t try that. Your son is too tender to be left in the hands of grand parents. Sit Your husband down and talk to him cos is Your child that they want to take away from You. Your son won’t stand the chance of getting all he requires from grand parents. Meanwhile, Your family should know about this. Both families need to talk.
If you leave Your son to stay with them, he will turn out against you cos they will spoil him mind.
Your inlaws are so myopic and have shallow reasoning, worst still, they are insecured .
They see you as being unfit to raise a child.
Your son should be raised by you!!!
Film trick,craz comot from where e dey sleep enter their head? Please alert the police ooo and any walfare organization.which kind untentional madness be this one na???
Never,fight it with your last drop of blood,stay with who? And face ur husband too.tell him u dont wish to leave ur son with his parents. He has to support u.make him see reasons dt u wud want to raise ur child yourself,and that during holidays,u wud all go see the grandparents.
Stand your ground and say no. If they don’t stop with the rubbish, then seek a separation. After training theirs, they won’t let train yours? What the hell is wrong with Nigerians even?
Was your husband raised by his grandparents? Did his parents give him to their parents to raise? Tue baby mama took her child away, there was no conjugation of marriage and they think after you are married already you will still take your child away? Abi dem wan scatter your family? Your husband also isn’t reasoning well for him to agree with what his parents are saying.
How on earth will that very young and tender child live with grandparents when its not as if you are indisposed or dead.Pls don’t allow them raise your child for you,he needs the motherly love not grand parents’ love
Why are you getting worried over this issue? Are you not the mother of this baby? Tell them you can NEVER give your child to them and in fact don’t ever leave your baby with them. If they try any rubbish with you, report them to the police. Are married couples not supposed to be living like a family? This your in-laws don’t wish you well, they are already thinking of you and your husband having a divorce and the likelihood of you going with the baby.
This isnutter bullshit. you better protect yourchild.
It’s your home and your child, they’ve got no opinion.
Lol my own is similar to that of the baby mama but in my own case I took my son and walked away. Do not let anyone take your child away from you! It’s obvious you gave them the impression that you are soft that’s why they could all gather and make decisions regardless of how you feel, your take in the matter et al. Pls my dear tell your family members about the new development and let them come together (both families) and deliberate on this issue because you guys are legally married and dont need the need for such nonsense unless your husband has other plans that he wants to carry out. Pls from now on never let that boy out of your sight. Make contacts with welfare organisation and bring it to their notice if they refuse to resolve the issue after the family meeting. Your son is not an orphan and your husband is I’m sorry to say this is not yet ready to build a family neither is he mentally prepared for marital duties. Pls fight for your son though I feel there’s more to this story. Stay blessed.
Do everything humanly possible to see that your son is not taken from you and if that fails, go to court. All the best