“He told me to relax and bear the pain” Juliana ‘Toyo Baby’ Olayode’s Shares Intimate Revelations
Juliana Olayode, popularly known as ‘Toyo Baby‘ from Funke Akindele-Bello‘s popular Television comic series, Jenifa’s Diaries, has released her book- ‘Rebirth From Grass to Grace’, and she spilled on the good, bad and ugly sides of her childhood experiences.
According to the 22-year-old beauty and brain, ”Writing this book brought me a mix of emotions. I cried hard, laughed hard, smiled, giggled… and had to forgive some people over and again.
I have been working on this book for a couple of months and I am glad it is finally available to you! I am sure it would be your favorite book after your first read.”
In the 23 chapter book, the young actress revealed the good, the bad and ugly things she went through as a teenager, and also revealed that Jenifa’s Diary gave her fame and not money.
Juliana also revealed that she lost her virginity when she was 17-year-old to her married music teacher, who brainwashed her with the promise of marriage.
The actress said it happened in a cheap hotel room and was a painful experience. She shed tears during the encounter and he kept pleading with her to lower her voice in order not to attract unwanted attraction.
The deed indeed happened, and she became even more emotional after finding out later on that she didn’t bleed when she was deflowered.
Here are excerpts from the book below…
She lost her virginity at 17 to her married music teacher
”The day finally came. He wanted to move the date because he was expecting some money that he wanted to use to pay for a good hotel, but moving it would mean my mum back from church. So, he settled for a cheap hotel. I still remember the smell of cigarette that filled the room. I hated the smell of alcohol and cigarette; I still do. We had to wait at the reception for the room to be cleaned and aired.
So, we went back into the room, and it happened. It was a painful experience for me. I cried at different points and he kept apologising, begging me to keep my voice down lest they think he was raping me. He told me to relax and bear the pain. In his words, “do not be a weak woman”.
That got at me because I hated feeling or being treated as weak.I asked for a break. He tutored me some more and tried again until he finally got through. It was not anything like he had told me it would be.
I saw no clouds, I made no sounds, I felt nothing special. It was painful all the way, but it was obvious he was satisfied.
When he was done, I checked the bed for blood. I screamed! There was no blood! He told me that not all virgins saw blood. I was so confused, but chose to believe him anyway.
Soon after, he slept, and I was there crying. Why didn’t I see blood? Even if not all virgins see blood, why should I be on that list? How would I tell the story of losing my virginity without blood? Who would believe me that I was actually a virgin?”
Her pastor also abused her sexually!
”I got to church and it was just the pastor there. I assumed he was the one who picked his children from school that day as they were still in their school uniforms and they were with him in church. He told me to come into his office and asked his children to go into the car.
In his office, he asked me if I read the scriptures he gave me and if I observed my prayer time. I told him I did. So he then claimed God told him I needed a spiritual bath and that I had to take my clothes off. He claimed his office had been supernaturally made a spiritual bathroom. He wanted to wash away the dirty water that was poured on me in
my dream.As he spoke those words, I began to cry. Was my case that critical? Why would God want me to have a bath in the pastor’s office? Couldn’t God wash me without me taking off my clothes? Why all these complications?
The pastor told me to stop crying and that I should follow God’s instructions through him.He said he would excuse me so God could do the sanctification. He left his office. I shut the door, made sure the windows were locked and put the curtains down. I was naked in his office. He had told me how to pray and I prayed. I cried as I did.
I saw the door handle moving so I quickly got up, and got dressed. I opened the door and he came in with oil. He claimed again that God asked him to anoint my body from head to toe.
So, the anointing session started. He anointed my head, my eyes, and was moving down. When he got to my chest, he did the sign of the cross and wanted to
proceed to touch me. I stopped him and told him to put the oil in my hand. I would anoint myself.He told me to lie down, that he wanted to anoint me down there. It was at the point when he wanted to anoint me, I remembered I had forgotten to wear my pant when I hurriedly dressed up.
At that time, I also remembered the dirty things Mr. F used to talk about. It was then my eyes were opened and I knew what this man was trying to do to me. I got upset, took my bag and left immediately.”
She is only 22 years old!
”I finished writing the first draft of this book some days to my birthday this year. I clocked twenty-two (22) on Wednesday, the 7 of June, 2017.
So, you can easily deduce that I was born Wednesday, the 7 of June, 1995. Now, I would assume this is the most shocking piece of information in this book. I have found out that the top question people are asking Google about Juliana Olayode, is her age.
Now, you know.”
On how she was born in a CHURCH after her mother laboured for three days!
”The last time she called me Aduragbemi was when she told me how I was born. She was in labour for three days! She kept seeing a black cat and every time she saw it, she lost her strength.
The strange thing was she was the only one seeing the cat. The midwives did not see it. They were beginning to think she had a problem.
On the third day, she asked to be taken to church. The head of the prayer team prayed over a cup of water and gave her to drink. At that moment, my mum’s strength was renewed and she stopped seeing the cat.
That’s how I came into this beautiful world at C.A.C. (Christ Apostolic Church), Oke-Iyanu, Ogba, Lagos. That was the reason
behind my name, Aduragbemi.
She started Menstruating on the 5th of April, 2010
”On the 5 of April, 2010, I got home, took off my uniform and saw a blood stain. At this time, I was in Senior Secondary School, at Babs Fafunwa Millenium, Ojodu, Lagos.
I did not remember having any injury and mum was not home. When I discovered where the blood was coming from, I started crying. How would I explain this to my mum?
I kept cleaning, but it kept flowing. I hurried to Toyosi Oyesile’s place. She asked what was wrong and I explained to her, perplexed at bleeding non stop, without an injury.
She laughed at me; she laughed so hard, she nearly choked on her laughter. I was irritated at her insensitivity. I wanted to walk out when she pulled me back, locked the door and said, “Congratulations. You’re now a woman”. She hugged me.”
A meeting with Mercy Aigbe changed her life
”Someday last year, I met Mercy Aigbe through one of my friends that works with her, Tosin Odusanya. She was very pleasant and kind. She answered many of my questions and gave me some serious words of advice. I could tell she was talking from experience.
At that time, I had just been written out of the Jenifa’s Diary TV series. I told her about my desire to change my social media account name from Toyo Baby to another name I wanted to push. I explained my fears and struggles.
After listening to me, she encouraged me on my stand as a Christian, asked me to stay out of scandals and told me to maintain good relationships in the industry.
In response to my change of name, she told me sternly, “Do not confuse your fans. You worked hard for that name. You gave life to the Toyo Baby character. Ride on it!”
It was after my conversation with her, that I got more comfortable with people calling me Toyo Baby everywhere and I watched God open doors for me. That meeting with Mercy Aigbe was a great blessing to me.”
She could not go to school even after gaining admission due to poverty!
”I graduated from Babs Fafunwa Millenium Senior Grammar School, Ojodu- Berger, Lagos. I was the Head Girl in my final year at school, loved by the principal, Mrs. Adebayo, other teachers and students.
My Valedictory Ceremony in school was a very emotional one. I was missing everyone and everything already, coupled with the fact that I was afraid of facing life outside the four walls of my school.
Before I graduated, I took the JAMB exam and I passed. I was already an undergraduate at the University of Ibadan as I had been given admission to study the course I applied for, Mass Communication.
Mrs. Adebayo was all smiles when I made the information public. She announced it to the school with so much pride. People
applauded and my teachers congratulated me. Little did I know I was going to lose the admission.
My mum tried so hard to raise my acceptance fee, tuition and other necessary payments, but she did not make headway. I told her not to worry; I assured her our finances would be better the next year. She still tried to raise it, but we missed the deadline.
She was bitter for days and wondered why they would not extend the deadline. That was how I missed my admission to the University of Ibadan. My principal and my English teacher, Mrs. Obabolujo called me to follow up.
When I disclosed the bad news, they were upset with me and told me I should have kept them abreast with how things were going.
God has now changed her story and can change yours too
”Today, God is taking her places and making ways for hers. My breakthrough eventually came after a long prayer session I had with my
covenant sisters.I got nominated for several awards and won many.There were some I had to decline because I was too busy to go to the awards ceremony. I started speaking on the same
platforms with people I only saw on TV prior. Celebrities started calling me a celebrity.People I was starstruck meeting were also starstruck meeting me. It was a miracle. My fan base on Instagram picked momentum and I just stared in amazement at how fast it grew. The growth of my followers could only have been divine; no logical analysis
could explain it.I started getting several emails, fans telling me how much of an inspiration I was. Mothers telling me I am a role model to their children. It just got sweeter by the day.
Shortly after again, I got an endorsement in millions. It was enough to buy me a car and help me sort out some bills. However, I had promised God that when I earned my first millions, I would give it out.
I gave out the endorsement money as I had promised without telling family and friends; I did not want anyone talking me out of it.
God yet showed up. I got other movie contract deals where I was paid more than I ever had been before.Right now, I have more acting offers than I can accept. I have so many speaking invites; I cannot honour even a tenth of them. I consciously give myself breaks so I can read books, pray and spend time with those that matter to me. I am now in the place
where I determine what acting job to take, what speaking engagement to honour and even which endorsement to give a consideration.If that is not amazing, I do not know what it is! God is faithful. Now, you will never see me in a bus or on a bike. Those things are in my past; God has raised me up. I am not where I want to be yet, but I am no longer where I used to be.
I still take strolls to the market though; I do not ever want to lose the feel of touching humanity in a close and personal way.
If you are in a place in your life where everything seems rough or slow or even backward, please do not lose hope. As far as you have God and you’re doing what is right dutifully, your day of breakthrough will definitely come. Please do not give up just yet.
Credit: KemiFilani’sBlog
Wow…God can actually choose anyone and the blessings continues.
I thought she said she was a virgin? Hmmmmm.
If you have a strong WILL for that which is a good course God knows how to make a WAY ……got a similar account too
…congrats gal kip moving forward don’t relent