Dear MIMsters: How Do I Get Out of This Precarious Situation With My Uncle on Life Support?
I am in a precarious situation and have no idea what to do.
My uncle (not related to me by blood) is on life support in the hospital as I type. Results from many tests and investigations carried out reveal that both his kidneys have packed up, his liver is affected and he is in coma and unable to breathe on his own. He is an 80-year-old man.
As I stated earlier, I am not related to him by blood but he is like a father to me. Was there all through for my family even when my parents were alive. He got married once but got divorced after he caught his newly wedded wife in bed with another man. Since then, he never married and has no children.
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My siblings and I are like his children and we committed ourselves to fending for him in his old age. We don’t feel like we are doing anything special because he was there for our family too in the past.
For 1o years now, this man has lived with my husband and I. His health has not been in the best of shape as we’ve always had reasons to take him to the hospital. All his medical bills and living expenses are paid by my husband and I without any form of assistance from his relatives and we are not complaining.
The problem now is, right now he is lying in coma in an expensive hospital on the island with damaged kidneys and liver and on life support. I do not know if he will recover. The doctor actually told me that it is only a matter of time before he passes on. I have to pay a minimum of 15k for each night he spends there. I have already deposited 300k and was told over 150k has been used up for his tests and treatments.
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I have informed his family members but no one has showed up yet. I really don’t know what to do as I’m the only one on ground. I am overwhelmed. I have no idea what to do. Please advise me.
Oh wow! If you know where any of his families stay, then go there and explain the situation as it is. If still no positive response, then I think he should be taken off life support if you can do it anyways.
This is huge, it’s not easy to make this kinda decision that involves a human life. If you ask the hospital to unplug, his family might blame you or even sue. So kindly contact them to decide or take over the bill from where you stopped.
Hmmmmnn…i think i agree wt Sandra
First of all, request for a compmete medical report from the hospital. Document all payments.
Now, reach out to his family and brief them.
Once he passes On, your obligation is to keep the corpse in a mortuary and notify the family.
If they are unwilling to do anything, then arrange a decent Christian burial.
Don’t let anyone later come out to accuse you of not informing them or even expecting you to do all the traditional burial rites.
You have been kind to him and God will reward you for your kindness.