Dear MIMsters: Is This Enough Reason To Initiate a Break Up?
Is this enough reason to initiate a break up?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and we love each other.
The problem is that he smokes weed often. I have cried, begged and spoken to him to stop but instead, he lied to me that he has stopped.
He had asked me to give him sometime and I agreed. I have never seen him smoke, I’ve only seen the wraps in the trash and ashes on his floor which he tries very hard to hide.w
When I show him these evidences, he tells me it was a friend. I’ve even initiated a break up with him due to this issue but he would beg and tell people to beg me on his behalf. I do not know what else to do.
He claims his mum is aware. My mum likes him but she does not know he smokes weed. If she does, she won’t be supportive of our relationship. I am worried about our future. What kind of role model will he be to our kids? Not that I’m aware of any crime he has committed under the influence.
He thinks smoking weed isn’t dangerous but I know it is not lawful in my country. I broke up with him again and all he could say is he is tired of me breaking up with him over this. I just want to know if I did the right thing to break up with him. If not, I am ready to go apologise and reconcile with him.
recieve sense in Jesus name….
I beg you in the name of God to leave this guy immediately. People that smoke weed find it difficult to stop, especially as he has told you he sees nothing wrong in it. They claim it makes them happy, everything is funny and it makes them see things differently. DON’T think you can change him. If he promises to stop or claims he has stopped, he will be hiding to do it. They claim to be normal but it affects their mental health, they don’t fear, slow at doing things, mean and can’t make rational decisions. Your husband is supposed to be a role model to your kids when you get married. He is weak and can you imagine any of your kids taking after him? You need to think far beyond today.. thank God you know about his addiction.
Remember taking weed is a gateway drug to harder drugs!
If you cannot tolerate it, then please break up with him. Don’t think you can manage it, it only gets worse never better.
He can only graduate from Igbo smoking to other higher level of drugs, kindly quit if you can’t take the heat.