Dear MIMsters: I need help on what to do because I am going crazy
I need help on what to do because I am going crazy right now.
This is my first time of posting here, I got married to my husband 2 months ago. February to be precise.
Two weeks into our marriage, I caught my husband smoking somewhere outside the gate of our home, at night. Instead of reacting, I went back inside to waited for him, then I confronted him. I question him.
I asked him why he didn’t tell me that he smokes. Before we got married, I had asked him if he smokes but he had denied it.
When I complained, he went off saying that I’m acting I caught him smoking a bunch of cigarette. I was so angry that I left our home and went out that night. I was so confused and didn’t know what to do. I never expected this from him.
On the following day, my husband apologize and told me that he won’t smoke again. The problem is that he has not stopped smoking. Even though he tries to hide it, I can still perceive the smell of cigarette on his breathe when we kiss or when he is lying close to me.
What’s more annoying is that when I tell him that I can perceive him reeling of cigarettes, he denies it. I am just tired and confused at the same time cos I don’t know what to do. Since then he has been dodging my hug and kisses after he comes back from work.
I now find it difficult to trust him as he hid a very important of him away from me before we got married, only to discover this after we got married. He deceived me but now wants me to accept what I never planned to put up and live with for the rest of my life.
Right now, I need help on what to do because I am going crazy. Thanks!
You are going crazy because he smokes? Mad take it easy. This shows that he has been smoking before you people got married and has been hiding it from you.