Dear MIMsters: Can We Work Things Out or Should I Take a Bow?
Can we work things out or should I take a bow?
My fiancé and I have been dating for about two years now. I’m not perfect, I have my own flaws, neither is he perfect! He’s a kind hearted and generous man but whenever we have issues he will stop talking to me until I beg him. Then things will return to normal, regardless of who is at fault.
I have talked to him severally and asked him why he keeps doing that. I told him that we will be getting married soon and when we have issues in our home, will he keep malice with me for days and not talk to me or even eat my food and touch me? He said when we get to that river, we will cross it or that he might not stay angry for long. He said that he does it to teach me a lesson. This has been a cause of concern to me.
We had a misunderstanding recently and we went on for nine days with little or no communication because I refused to beg. When I then decided to beg, he quickly adjusted and started talking to me as if nothing ever happened and I’m like we can’t get married with this kind of situation. And he began to say that I talk too much and he can’t be like me who likes ironing out every issue.
I was angry and said somethings and then out of a anger, I guess, he said he’s sick and tired that we should both go our separate ways! All this on a phone chat o. Mind you his parents know me already and vice versa and we are about to start wedding plans! But I just can’t stand it when I’m in a relationship and there’s malice and I am the one who seeks for peace all the time.
What do you do in this kind of relationship where your fiancé enjoys keeping malice?
Do you think I don’t understand him enough and we could work things out or if I should take a bow myself? What do you think I should do, dear Mimsters?
Marriage is a long time to be the only one seeking for forgiveness after a quarrel.