Dear MIMsters: I Need Help On How to Handle This Situation Breaking My Heart

My husband has been nice and caring though he is sometimes annoying because he is human and can’t be perfect. I stumbled across his phone, checked and saw a message from a woman. This message I read broke my heart and is still breaking what is left of it.

I confronted him about it and he said he has nothing in common with the woman. He claims she is a former colleague of his who shares the same surname with him and he jokingly started calling her his sister.

He said that they met again a few months ago and exchanged numbers and she was bold enough to start making advances towards him. He claimed she had wanted to have him then but he didn’t give her attention and told her to stop sending such messages to him because he is a happily married man but she was defiant about it.

This God forsaken woman is married with children. The things is I don’t even know if I should believe him or not because in this woman’s message, she stated that she misses him and loves him so much and promised not to fail him. She said that she feels him every moment of her life, that the only barrier they have is that they are both married.

She went as far as requesting that they meet in her church on a convention day with the date clearly stated as well.

My nine years of marriage has been peaceful but because of this issue, my husband hit me after I seized his phone when I noticed he was sending a message and didn’t want me to see the contents. He went on his knees to apologise to me and promised to block her immediately.

I went on Facebook to search for this woman and I have seen her ugly face. Should I go ahead to confront her since she has refused to stop? My hubby blamed me for not responding to the messages she sent to him on WhatsApp. Please advice me on how to handle this.